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Day 294: Why Winning Is A Limitation

Is winning something good? Does winning benefit and support us in our expression?

It is normal to view winning as a positive experience. Winning is something most people strive towards, in various ways. Winning in our career through getting the best job, winning in our personal lives through having the best partner, winning in our education through having the best marks, and so on. Winning is a lifestyle that has become particularly accentuated in our fast paced lives. Though, there is a backside to winning, something that is easily missed or shunned, as the experience of winning is so tempting, exciting, and positive.

I will take an example from my own life which shows that becoming obsessed with, and defining oneself according to the experience winning is in-fact a limitation. It goes back to my years in elementary school. It was easy for me in school and I managed to get comparatively good marks. I was not necessarily the best, however, I was doing good – good enough for me to see myself as a ‘winner’. Then came a big change in my life, as my parents decided that our family was to move to another part of our country. I had to start a new school, and in that, I was now marked according to new standards. In this new school, I did not achieve the marks I had hoped for, and consequently, I went into an experience of feeling like a loser, and being depressed because I did not win anymore. This led me to struggle, fight, and push so that I could move myself forward in school, and get better marks again. To some extent I succeeded with achieving better marks at my new school, and again I went into that comfort zone of feeling like a winner – comparatively good at what I was doing.

Now, some might ask, what is the problem with this? You were quite good at school, had some problems, and then sorted it out, what is the story?

The problem is the fact that my drive, ambition, and push was always defined within the limits of energy and how I felt. I only pushed myself to excel and become better when I felt like I did not match my peers. Only then did it become relevant for me to go through the trials and tribulations to actually expand myself – and that is a LIMITATION. The fact is that, the moment we base our feeling of ourselves through comparison against others, we put a cap on our ability to excel, and expand. We only go as far as is required to feel feel good about ourselves, though not as far as we are able to take it.

Later in my life I decided to study law, and during this period of time I came to realize some important points about learning, self-expansion, and self-creation. I realized that if I want to become really good at what I am doing, I cannot use others as a benchmark. Instead, I must listen to myself, and be self-honest – I must be willing to admit to myself when I am not living to the utmost of my ability and then have the discipline to actively change myself. Having this perspective, studies, learning, work, and career becomes about self-perfection – it becomes about being the best that you are able to be – where there is no comparison – because you do it for yourself. That is also the definition of self-fulfillment – where you fill yourself through challenging yourself, through actively moving forward, through tirelessly looking at where, and how you can push yourself to become more.

Winning as such is a limitation because in making winning the focus you loose touch with yourself and your own potential. In winning, you have to conform to standards of what is considered right, and wrong – however your fullest potential might not even be able to be compartmentalized in such limited words as right, and wrong. Consider for example the work of Bruce Lee. He did not become the best karate or kung fu practitioner – instead he developed his own martial arts where he could express his own unique movements and physical characteristics fully. The same is true with any form of skill or ability that is being developed. To find and realize our full potential, we must do it for ourselves, we must listen to ourselves, and be open to what comes through from within.

The solution to this problem of being addicted to and driven by the desire to win is as such to let ourselves lose. Let go of the hierarchy, of who is the best, and who is the worst, and let us instead look at who we are, and how we can become the best version of OURSELVES. Let us find that innate and deep drive to develop and realize ourselves and make it the quest in all aspects of our lives to find out how much more we be.

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Day 289: Breaking The Habit Of Overworking

For most my life I have studied, and now recently, I joined the so-called workforce – now a large chunk of my days consists of what we call working. What I have come to see is that working is very much different to studying. Working is physically tiresome, it is stressful, you are very much left to your own devices, and it definitely takes more of a strain on the body. However, what I have found is that there are two ways of working; there is overworking, and working.

Overworking is when I push myself without taking brakes, without slowing myself down within myself, and creating a energetic momentum within me, fuelled by work, and the drive to get as much done as possible in the shortest amount of time possible. Overworking has consequences for the physical body. Yesterday I overworked myself, and as I woke up the morning after, I could feel how my body was a lot more tired, and depressed. Not only that, but throughout the night I had perspired, and my sheets were damp. And this experience was a direct consequence of overworking.

Looking at the beliefs and opinions circulating in society, one of them is that working hard, efficiently, and with drive is a positive thing. Being ambitious and successful is many times seen as synonymous with having a tight schedule, and constantly busy with work. However, what I have realized is that there is a quality in working slow. There are major benefits in taking breaks, allowing for fun and expected events, and doing things I enjoy, to for a moment, letting go of work.

I have had this idea that the more I work, the more I will get done. Now, I am not so sure anymore. Because, sure, when I work a lot, I will seemingly be productive, though, what is the price of that productivity, will I get more done in the long run or will I burn out? And then, how about focus and concentration, can I still produce quality products if I am tired, foggy, and absent-minded? My answer here is NO – it is not possible. As with all things, I do things best when there is a balance, when there is a holistic consideration for all the points in my world.

Hence, working must be balanced. Overworking implies a lack of balance, and the solution here is to insert small breaks into my schedule, go and take a coffee when I feel that I go into that compressed, tight, and pressured overworking-mode, and listen to my body. Success and ambition does not have to imply overworking – instead success and ambition are words that can be lived and applied in consideration of my human physical body – hence creating a balance – making sure that I give myself all the ingredients I require to live to my utmost potential.

Self-forgiveness

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to overwork instead of accepting and allowing myself to work in a tempo and speed that is supportive for me and my human physical body

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not break the habit of overworking – seeing that in order to break this habit – I require to push myself to get out of my comfort zone – and work slowly – work in consideration of and as my human physical body – to actively listen to myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not practice gentle working – gentle working that is supportive for me and my human physical body and let go of the ideal of productivity and effectiveness – to see, realize and understand that I am in a physical reality – and because of that I cannot lead my life by these mental concepts of perfection – I have to take into account that the physical must move in a certain speed to be supported effectively – that when I overwork I create consequences for myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that overworking comes from stress and anxiety – that overworking rises from a thinking pattern emerging from lack – where I believe that something is lacking and that I must run to get back on track – and that I am all the time out of sync and must rush to get back in sync – and hence I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not embrace myself here as in sync

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be more natural and organic in how I approach my life – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand, that to create a supportive environment for myself and my body, I must listen to, and be attuned to what is here, to the information that is here in this moment, and align my participation and movement according to that

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not push myself to take recurring breaks, to walk my body, to change environments, to do something different and break routines while at work, to in that assist and support myself to get out of the overworking-mode and get into working-mode – where I move myself in breath, being aware of my reality, and of my human physical body, moving in a tempo and speed that is supportive

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear giving up overworking in fear that I am then not going to get anything done – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to value and honor overworking as this supreme characteristic that I must hold unto – as it will propel me through life and make something extraordinary of me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that overworking is going to lead me into a early grave – because overworking – that has very direct consequences for and as my human physical body that are not supportive – and thus I commit myself to practice natural working

Self-commitment statements

When and as I see that I am overworking, I take a breath, I bring myself back here, and I stop myself – and I see, realize and understand that I will not get more done when I overwork, rather I will exhaust myself physically and mentally, and create physical consequences, a tired body, a tired mind, and a lack of life, and thus I commit myself to practice working in a comfortable speed, and tempo – to take regular breaks, and in that – nourish and care for my physical body – making sure that I take myself into account and that I listen to myself

I commit myself to stop overworking – and instead apply myself in a tempo and speed that is comfortable and supportive for my human physical body – and thus take the breaks I require in order to rejuvenate and replenish my energy

I commit myself to show by example, that in doing things in a comfortable pace, I can get just as much done as everyone else, and that it is not the speed that counts, it is WHO I AM – my presence – my interaction with the labor in the moment – that is what allows me to do really great quality work

When and as I see myself chasing minutes, chasing productivity, chasing success, I take a breath and I stop myself, and I see, realize and understand that I will never be able to achieve success and productivity if that is always points I am chasing after, and trying to get to – the solution hence is to LIVE them here – to stand as success – to stand as productivity – redefining and living these words HERE in the moment; and thus I commit myself to live productivity and success – to apply and live these words in my daily living and hence not anymore chase them

I commit myself to take the lead in creating a new way of relating to work – where work is done in a comfortable pace and tempo that is supportive for the human physical body and myself – and in this I commit myself to create balance in my life – balance between work, relaxing, commitments, and responsibilities, and make sure that I do not place too much emphasis on one single point – but that I nourish/take into consideration ALL OF ME

Day 152: The End of Waiting

Today I will expand on and how I’ve lived and applied in my life, the principle of:

We are the change in ourselves and this world we have been waiting for: and so I commit to dedicate myself and my life for each one as all to realize this, as nothing will change if we don’t change in all that we are, within and without

Throughout my process I’ve come to understand a fascinating thing about the human-being, and correspondingly also about myself – and this particular aspect of the human experience most clearly comes through in the industrialized and so called developed countries – where most are able to have somewhat of a decent lifestyle – where they are able to eat, have a roof over their head, spend time on some form of hobby, have children, and build a life for themselves – in other words: They have access to money.

Now, this particular point that comes through is the way of living where the total behavior of the human being becomes centered around one thing – and one thing only: ME – or rather – the illusory experience of ME in the form of feelings and emotions – that tend to take the shape and form of how the person spends all of their time doing what they like to do, what they feel like doing, what they prefer doing, and where they consequently suppress and shut out all the possibilities of life that require self-movement and self-direction.

Real change is such a point that requires, in order to manifest and tangibly come through, self-movement, self-direction and self-willed ambition as a self-motivated drive to create something extraordinary and concrete that will stand the test of time. Fascinatingly enough, change and the motivation to change doesn’t ever come naturally or by itself – change must be specifically directed and willed – and if this is not done – what will happen is that a form of complacency will develop; in other words, a form of waiting. This is the decease that has grabbed a large extent of the human population – resulting in a world of waiting – where nothing really changes – nothing really moves – and nothing really come to a conclusion – there is no momentum.

Though there is a remedy for this decease: When we loose everything, and there isn’t anything left to live for, no money to use to preoccupy ourselves with, no entertainment, no friends, no lovers, no home, and no food – at that point – we tend to realize that something must change – that there is something wrong with this system we live in and with the way that the world is construed – the problem is that at this point – its in most cases already too late – the consequence is already here.

Just as I’ve observed this pattern in others, I’ve observed and seen it in myself, this fruitless waiting for something better to manifest while spending most of time doing nothing of substance, value, or importance – and because I’ve clearly seen and understood this point and how severe the consequential outflows of this point is – I’ve decided to change this – the simple reasoning behind this being that: If I were in the shoes of one of those that do live a life of poverty, suffering, in inhumane conditions, what I would’ve wanted of myself, is that I give this one lifetime, making sure that change comes through in substance – and because this is what I would’ve wanted from another if they were in my position, this is what I will myself to live.

How is it then that I am living this point practically?

I’ve constructed some basic guidelines that I apply consistently in my life that have allowed me to stop waiting – and instead move myself to create something of actual substance – for example:

Firstly, I make sure that I give myself the time required to assist and support myself to walk out of a emotional or feeling possession, when I notice that go into one of those – and this I give to myself through applying the tools of writing myself to freedom, self-forgiveness, and self-commitment statements – and as such – I push myself to be a beacon of change, where I show that its in-fact possible to stand and walk in this world without feelings and emotions – remaining objective and instead being guided within and as the principle of what is best for all; because I understand that the root cause of suffering is the separation from reality that we human beings create through a self-generated artificial and disconnected fantasy world in our minds – resulting in a rift between humans and the physical substance of this world – which makes us unable to recognize the physical and the equal nature of all other expressions existent in this world.

Secondly, I make sure that I each day push myself to contribute in someway to a solution that is global, and that will have a definitive impact in all people’s lives – and this I do through standing with and promoting the implementation of a Living Income Guaranteed – an economic model that will allow for all to have a decent life and have their basic human rights be a given.

Thirdly, I make sure that I align myself with people that also care about creating a world that is best for all – and I make sure that I learn from them, that I allow myself to be supported by them – and that I walk with them and through group efforts make an impact that far supersedes the influence that I as single individual can have in this world – and I make sure that I don’t accept and allow myself to go into a state of superiority in wanting to bring forth change by myself – because I realize that in walking with a group I become stronger – and that the group will become stronger when I stand and walk with it.

The one principle that arch’s over and permeates these practical lifestyle directions that I’ve made is the realization that unless I act – and unless I move – nothing will move – and within that comes the question: Would I be satisfied with myself, when I die and look back at my life, and realize that I did nothing, that I was waiting for something to occur instead of everyday, making sure that something will occur, and that something will happen? I answered this question with a resounding: No!

What would your answer to this question be?

WeWikipedia: We is the first-person, plural personal pronoun in Modern English.