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Day 429: Justice and Fairness = Limitation

Last week I faced a situation at work where I had to handle a disagreement between two people. Subtly, however noticeably, I sided with one of them, because I felt/thought that they stood on a moral high ground. I decided to intervene and support them to find common ground and a solution. And here is where things go interesting. Because I was in a slight reaction of judgment towards one of the participants, I looked at potential solutions/ways to deal with the situation in a limited, one dimensional way. I wanted a fair solution, however, in only considering what was fair, I missed many other values and parameters that must be taken into account to find the BEST solution.

For example, the solution I saw within myself was the one of the persons (the one I judged) backed down from his position and agreed to a proposition, slightly different from what he wanted. And my inner motive for wanting this solution was that I thought it to be fair and right. However, by becoming focused on this one solution, I missed other values/dimensions, ways to solve the problem, that would have been better for both parties. Even though my solution helped one of the participants to ‘get his will through’, afterwards, I could see that, this was not necessarily the BEST way – and I could see, that it was not BEST for everyone to be just and fair.

And this is the point I want to get at: Fairness and Justice, even though they might seem to be ideals to strive towards, they are also one sided, impractical and by using these ideals to make decisions, we only take into account a few points out of the many, many dimensions that exist in physical reality, which must considered if we want to make good and effective decisions. And in-fact, even if I want to claim that I am impartially fair and just, at the core, there is a judgment, there is a reaction, there is a pattern that I have not yet dealt with that I require to look at.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to justify me becoming emotional and judgmental with thinking that I am being fair and just, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand, that when I am emotional, and focused on what I feel is fair and just, then I am missing common sense, and I am not seeing the moment for what it is, I am not seeing ALL the parameters and dimensions of the point, and hence I am limiting myself from moving forward and bringing through and creating the BEST possible solutions

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that being emotional is never a strength, even though I might claim that I am being just and fair, and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not keep my cool, keep my stability, regardless of how unjust or unfair I feel that a situation is, and regardless of how much I want to go into and deal with the situation through becoming emotional, because emotions never help, they cloud my clarity, and at the end of the day, I create more problems for myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel empowered and strong when I access emotions, and I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to access emotions because I believe that it is right to do so, because I believe that the situation needs it, and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ‘force it’ – to try to scream, yell, and force myself to get power and control over a situation – instead of remaining with and as breath – remaining with and as stability – from which I can see the situation with clarity – from where I can make decisions that are best for all

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that real strength, real power, real justice, and real fairness is to remain stable – and then to act according to what is best for all – taking into account ALL the points that are here – and when I stand with and as stability – I have the power and ability to consider ALL points – because then I am not limited and secluded into an emotional context where I am prejudiced and bound to move a certain direction because it is what I believe and feel to be right – however not necessarily what is the BEST

Self-commitment statements

When and as I see myself judging, taking sides, or becoming emotional, when I am participating in a discussion, part of a conflict, or seeing others in a conflict, I immediately stop myself, I take a breath and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand that I can only see with clarity, and can only establish and see ahead, what is common sense, and what is best for all, when I am stable, when I am grounded, when I am impartial, when I stand here able to view all vantage points – and hence I commit myself to stand impartial – to stand stable – to stand within and as my human physical body and see both parties – see EVERYONE involved without judgment or emotions – and thus I commit myself to push myself to select and go for the solution that is BEST for EVERYONE

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Day 307: Longing For More

About two years ago I started planning my future when it came to career, living arrangements, and what type of future that I wanted to experience in my life. In this process I was able to reach a few conclusions, such as for example: I want to live on the country side and I want to be able to have a career in which I can be flexible and steer my working hours in a way that fits me. Now I am at a stage where I have realized parts of my plan, and where I have come to see, that the assessments I made two years ago where in many ways correct. My plan has worked out in many respecs– and I should be happy. Though the fascinating thing is that, I am not.

Because, here I am, having reached my goals, finding out that things are not the way I imagined – and with that I mean – the way I perceived that they would feel. For example, in living on the country side, what I perceive to be amiss in my environment now is ambition and career-driven people. And then further, I feel that the small city which I live close to is to small, not enough people, it is too plain, and boring. Instead of being satisfied, my mind is moving towards a future in one of the bigger cities – something that I have planned to avoid due to the various inconveniences that go with living in a bigger city; such as housing prices, infrastructure, transportation, living costs etc. Hence, I find this development within me fascinating. And what I have realized is that this tendency of wanting what is not here, of seeing that is over there, and the bad that is here, it is a tendency I have had for some time – the inability to settle down and be content with what is here – and thus – work with what is here instead of trying to escape it.

Instead of appreciating what I have and the positive aspects of my reality, what stands out is the negative, what stands out is what I do not have, and what I feel that I should have. And this has been a theme in my life, mostly I have felt that my life is somewhere there, in the future, my life will begin in a year or two, my life will begin when I get over there, and in that process of projection, I miss the life that is HERE. Because I have seen, that it is not so much about WHERE you are, it is about WHO you are – WHO you are determines EVERYTHING. You can live in the most perfect of worlds, and still, if you are not stable and settled within yourself, there will still exist a restlessness deep inside, a want to get out, to experience something different, to not be here, but to get away.

What is then the solution?

The solution is to realize that projections into the future indicates what is amiss in my expression and practical living HERE – and hence – the projection is a coping mechanism – because through projections we are able to feel as if we are some time, some day actually going to reach our goals/dreams/wishes – however – we will not – because that projection only exists in the first place because we are not living that experience as ourselves.

For example, with me, what I now long for is a bustling city, filled with opportunities and momentum – and hence – a place where I can feel challenged and where I still have security and stability – and I also see that my projection contains a touch of fulfillment and completion – it is as if I will only somewhere in my future be able to realize myself as fulfillment – and feel utterly at ease with myself – no longing. Though this is as well an illusion – because fulfillment and completion can never come to me from my outside world – it can never be something that I find out there – instead these are words that I must live – that I must bring to life through living on a moment to moment basis.

Hence, when projections of the future come up, this can be utilized as a support, through asking oneself; what does these projections show me about myself? What is is that I have not created and lived HERE for and as myself that I am still projecting into the future? Thus instead of trying to reach my projection – I can instead bring my projection HERE – and make that desire/want/wish/preference that I see out there – a part of my living reality HERE as how I live – how I stand in thought, word and deed. This is the key to being able to create anything – because suddenly we are not bound by space and time – we are bound by our own initiative, push and drive – and how much we will ourselves to create ourselves.

Day 294: Why Winning Is A Limitation

Is winning something good? Does winning benefit and support us in our expression?

It is normal to view winning as a positive experience. Winning is something most people strive towards, in various ways. Winning in our career through getting the best job, winning in our personal lives through having the best partner, winning in our education through having the best marks, and so on. Winning is a lifestyle that has become particularly accentuated in our fast paced lives. Though, there is a backside to winning, something that is easily missed or shunned, as the experience of winning is so tempting, exciting, and positive.

I will take an example from my own life which shows that becoming obsessed with, and defining oneself according to the experience winning is in-fact a limitation. It goes back to my years in elementary school. It was easy for me in school and I managed to get comparatively good marks. I was not necessarily the best, however, I was doing good – good enough for me to see myself as a ‘winner’. Then came a big change in my life, as my parents decided that our family was to move to another part of our country. I had to start a new school, and in that, I was now marked according to new standards. In this new school, I did not achieve the marks I had hoped for, and consequently, I went into an experience of feeling like a loser, and being depressed because I did not win anymore. This led me to struggle, fight, and push so that I could move myself forward in school, and get better marks again. To some extent I succeeded with achieving better marks at my new school, and again I went into that comfort zone of feeling like a winner – comparatively good at what I was doing.

Now, some might ask, what is the problem with this? You were quite good at school, had some problems, and then sorted it out, what is the story?

The problem is the fact that my drive, ambition, and push was always defined within the limits of energy and how I felt. I only pushed myself to excel and become better when I felt like I did not match my peers. Only then did it become relevant for me to go through the trials and tribulations to actually expand myself – and that is a LIMITATION. The fact is that, the moment we base our feeling of ourselves through comparison against others, we put a cap on our ability to excel, and expand. We only go as far as is required to feel feel good about ourselves, though not as far as we are able to take it.

Later in my life I decided to study law, and during this period of time I came to realize some important points about learning, self-expansion, and self-creation. I realized that if I want to become really good at what I am doing, I cannot use others as a benchmark. Instead, I must listen to myself, and be self-honest – I must be willing to admit to myself when I am not living to the utmost of my ability and then have the discipline to actively change myself. Having this perspective, studies, learning, work, and career becomes about self-perfection – it becomes about being the best that you are able to be – where there is no comparison – because you do it for yourself. That is also the definition of self-fulfillment – where you fill yourself through challenging yourself, through actively moving forward, through tirelessly looking at where, and how you can push yourself to become more.

Winning as such is a limitation because in making winning the focus you loose touch with yourself and your own potential. In winning, you have to conform to standards of what is considered right, and wrong – however your fullest potential might not even be able to be compartmentalized in such limited words as right, and wrong. Consider for example the work of Bruce Lee. He did not become the best karate or kung fu practitioner – instead he developed his own martial arts where he could express his own unique movements and physical characteristics fully. The same is true with any form of skill or ability that is being developed. To find and realize our full potential, we must do it for ourselves, we must listen to ourselves, and be open to what comes through from within.

The solution to this problem of being addicted to and driven by the desire to win is as such to let ourselves lose. Let go of the hierarchy, of who is the best, and who is the worst, and let us instead look at who we are, and how we can become the best version of OURSELVES. Let us find that innate and deep drive to develop and realize ourselves and make it the quest in all aspects of our lives to find out how much more we be.

Day 115: No More Excuses

I am in this blog going to take a closer look at an experience of frustration that has come up as a form of blame towards others in my world within the specific context of movement and discipline.

excuseWhat I am able to see in regards to this reactions is that I react to when I perceive that others are not doing what they are supposed to be doing, or doing enough, or pushing themselves to the extent that I see they are able to push themselves – I then become frustrated because I believe that they should be, and apparently their decision to not do so impacts badly on me, and makes my process and life more difficult. Though, obviously, this pattern is not about others, it’s about me, and how I tend to justify for myself when I do not push myself as far as I am able to do.

I mean, I do see that I’ve on many levels in my life established a consistent discipline, a drive and motivation that is unconditional, wherein I on a daily basis push myself to create movement, and a flow – yet, I can also see that I’ve not yet brought this consistent discipline to it’s utmost potential – there are still points in my world where I am not living this fully and where I see that I can change myself, push myself further, and that this would have the implication of me being even more effective, and within that enable myself to truly make a difference for myself as well as for others in my life.

A fascinating point to take into consideration here is that the question as to “why” I am not pushing myself to the utmost of my abilities isn’t really relevant – instead the question should be “how” it is that I am not pushing myself to the utmost of my abilities – and within this I am able to see that the primary excuse and justification I use in order to not take this strength of mine as discipline and consistency to it’s utmost potential is the experience of tiredness, as well as the thought pattern that “I’ve done enough for today” and that “I need some time for myself to relax and just let go” – when really one can ask the question: Can I ever do enough when the earth and this existence is existent within such a dire state of consequence where there are human beings not even receiving their most basic needs required for them to sustain themselves? Obviously, if I was in their position, I would’ve wanted myself to take each and every breath, each and every day, and make the most of that day – push myself as far as I am able to go – to make sure that I do my part effectively in regards to bringing about a world change that is best for all.

Within placing myself in the position of those human beings in this world that have been robbed of all dignity and value – I see that it’s my responsibility to make the most of every day – to make sure that I push – that I dedicate myself – and that I move myself until the results of my actions and living can be verified in how the nature and existence of this world has changed.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not make the most of each day, to not make the most of each and every breath, to push myself to create a change both within and without – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that the consequence of me slacking and not doing and walking to the fullest of my potential will be that I accumulate irritation and frustration – because I know what I am capable of walking – I know what I am capable of doing – I know what I am capable of living – yet still I am not doing this

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand – that if I would’ve been in the shoes of those that have been robbed of all dignity and value – I would’ve wanted myself to push myself each and every day to bring forth a change both on a inner and outer level – so that nobody anymore is born into a state of living where there is food, no home, no clean water, and no opportunity to live an effective life; as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not make an effort to give of myself each and every day – to push myself beyond my limitations – and to not accept and allow myself to justify not doing what I am capable of through utilizing such limiting ideas such as “I’ve done enough” – or “I am too tired to do this now – I must relax and have some time for myself”

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that the time I have is valuable because I am able to utilize this time in bringing through a change within and without that is best for all – and I am able to utilize the time I have to create something of real worth and real substance – and thus to not use the time I have as effectively as possible is really a form of spite – and a form of abuse – because it’s obvious that this world is at the moment not in anyway representative of life as what is best for all – and within me being able to see this – it’s my responsibility to make sure that life is honored – that life is created from the physical – and that this earth change to become a place where life and living is honored – supported and nourished in everyway possible

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not make the most of each day – to not push myself to utilize the time at my disposal to the fullest of my abilities and make sure that I do not justify – that I do not excuse – that I do not hide from my responsibilities – which is to bring forth a change both within and without – and to make sure that I do not stop – and that I do not give up – and that I do not do less than what I am able to do – but that I instead stand up each and every morning – and make the decision to walk for life – as life – and within that create a new world

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that for each and every breath I miss, for each and every day that I do not give it my all, I am creating more consequences, I am accepting and allowing this atrocity to continue and within that I am responsible for this atrocity continuing – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not will myself to each morning get out of my bed within the statement – that today I am going to give it my all – today I am going to push all boundaries – all limitations – and I am not going to justify and excuse myself – I am going to walk this fully – completely – and totally – and I am going to do this without any feeling or experience of motivation – I am going to do this because it’s a matter of self-respect – it’s a matter of self-value – it’s a matter of realizing that if I do not push myself to walk the solution I am a part of the problem and that invalidates my entire life and puts into question whether I really should continue to be on this earth

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that in order to bring my strengths of discipline and consistency to their fullest expression – I require to push through the self-imposed limitations that I’ve created as tiredness, justifications and excuses – and that this process will be uncomfortable – and that I will be faced with resistance – though within this I see, realize and understand that this is the only way forward – this is the only valid way to live – this is the only valid purpose that exists – and that without walking my life to bring forth change there is really no point and meaning in existing at all

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not each and every day make the decision to push myself – to walk beyond my limitations – to expand myself – to better myself – to develop myself – and to give of myself and share myself in such a way that I stand as a catalyst of change – bringing forth a new world – and a new reality that is best for all – where all are able to live their life’s with dignity – where all are valued unconditionally as life because they are part of life by virtue of their birth – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that as long as I don’t walk fully – completely – totally – there will be this reminiscence of dissatisfaction within me – of frustration and irritation – because I know what I am doing – and I know that I am able to do more

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to only do the absolute minimum and believe that I will be satisfied within only doing the absolute minimum – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that I will only be satisfied with myself when I each and every day push myself beyond my preconceived limitations – and that I will within this face resistance – and I will face experiences of wanting to give up – yet herein what I must see realize and understand is that these experiences can not have any power over me – and can not decide who I am unless I give these experiences power over me

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not change this point of doing the absolute minimum – to instead deliberately within all points that I am participating in – and taking part of – doing the most I am able to – pushing myself to contribute to the fullest of my abilities and walking this point deliberately in realizing that I will not be able to be satisfied with myself – I will not be able to let go of irritation and frustration unless I push myself beyond what I believe myself to be capable of doing – unless I dedicate myself to make sure that each day I live is a day I spend in the name of creating a world that is best for all in every way – and wherein I walk this change both on the inner and outer levels of my existence – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not commit myself to make the most out of my time – the make the most out of my life – and to not accept and allow compromise in anyway

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that compromise always have a consequence, and that one of these consequences is that I build and grow a dissatisfaction, irritation and frustration within me – thus I see, realize and understand that if I want to live a life of actual peace – and comfort – I must make sure that I make the most out of my life – and that I dedicate every single day – every single breath – every single moment – to bringing forth life both on an inner and outer level – both in regards to my own process of inner change – and in regards to the process of outer change wherein the world system must change in order to facilitate life as what is best for all


When and as I see that I am going into a state of justification and excuses, as to why I shouldn’t participate fully and do as much as I am capable of, as thinking that I’ve “done enough” – or that I need some “me time, and that I need to relax” – I immediately stop myself, I take a breath, and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand that unless I make the most out of my life, and I push myself, and dedicate myself to bring forth change both on an inner and outer level, I will never be content, I will never be satisfied, and I will never be at peace with myself; as such I commit myself to make each day count – to make each breath count – to make each moment count – and make sure that I walk each day of my life to bring forth change both on an inner and outer level

When and as I see that I am not doing as much as I am able to, and that I am compromising myself, and just doing the absolute minimum, I immediately stop myself, I take a breath, and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand that in only doing the absolute minimum I am creating consequences for myself, wherein I will undoubtedly become angry, frustrated and irritated, and I will start to feel dissatisfied with myself; as such I commit myself to challenge myself – and push myself – and break through my limitations and dare myself to each day expand and move beyond what I believe to be my limitations and constrains

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Why Equal Money isn’t a Utopia

Many times as I’ve spoken about and shared myself in regards to the Equal Money System, as a solution for mankind wherein competition, survival and fear would end, people have countered me with the statement of: that will never work! It’s a utopia! People are born greedy, and the human will never change! The world will never become a better place!

It’s fascinating that many make such conclusions, that greed can never end, and that the human will never will change; because on what factual foundation do they base such a judgment? I mean, has it ever been tried to change the human nature? Have anyone ever attempted to implement an Equal Money System? Has anyone ever stood up and spoken with a voice that belongs to the entirety of mankind?

No – never has this been done.

As such, to state that the Equal Money System is a utopia is in-fact a justification, an excuse as to why you don’t want to change yourself, and why you would rather wallow in apathy, fear, anxiety, inferiority and blame; instead of standing up to become the much needed change that is required. Because utopia, as a dream of the perfect world that can’t ever be real, is only a utopia because we haven’t in-fact lived what is best for all, and actually brought to earth a system, and a way of life that would consider everyone equally, as what is best for all.

Who created the world as it is today? Who created you as you are today? Who’s responsible? Is it somebody else but you? No!

That’s why you’re also able, capable, and in a position to create utopia. I mean, we created hell – why couldn’t we then create utopia? As a life that is best for all? Of course we can! It’s simply that we change our behavior, or way of living, and we remove that from ourselves that have brought us to this position of hell, and we instead live that which will bring us to a position of heaven on earth. It’s simple.

That’s why stating that the Equal Money System is a utopia is unacceptable, because it’s a statement of giving up; and if you’ve given up – what’s the point to live really? When you’re only going to continue living in this world, as hell, simply living to survive, with no point or purpose above that what so ever; that’s simply not a worthy, or cool life – we deserve to have something better. We deserve to have utopia!

Though the very definition of utopia is that of a dream of a perfect reality that can’t be fulfilled, so the word in it’s very essence is deceptive and abusive, as it states that a world that is best for all won’t ever become a reality. So, we need to have a new word, and that could be practopia – which holds the definition: that anything is possible to be created, it’s all a matter of consistency, discipline, focus and determination; though when we live these words change will eventually be on our door step.

So, the Equal Money System is a practopia – you’ll have to live it into existence for it to become real; it will not manifest out of thin air by itself, but it’s absolutely possible, absolutely doable, and absolutely needed.

Thus – whenever anyone tells you that a world that is best for all is a utopia, you know he’s simply uneducated, as he’s not yet aware of the word practopia – and at the moment there are many that are uneducated and lost in the delusion, that there exist such a thing as a utopia. We need to bring humanity back to breath, back to basics; to realize that we create here as breathe, and what live here will accumulate and become our future. That’s the simplicity, which must be learned.

Desteni–haters are perfect examples of people that have forgotten their nature as practitioners of practopia, and have instead fallen prey to apathy, self-judgment, and self-hatred; willingly defending their nature, and this system that has been the cause of so much suffering and pain, when there is, right in front of their faces, opening up and opportunity to actually create heaven on earth.

How can anyone actually be willing to defend his or her own limitations? It’s fascinating – yet this is what we’ve become. We fight for our existence that is lesser than what is best for all, and we call the venture, and idea of creating a future that is best for all utopia, and as such as being impossible – isn’t that somewhat funny?

I mean, it indicates a severe mind delusion to state that a better future for all is utopia, as it is a statement that by implication makes the announcer non-existent; as he’s stating that he can’t do anything, he can’t change, he can’t create himself as a better man – but why can’t he do that? Obviously everyone is able to change themselves, because we’re here, we’re the one’s living our life’s, we’re the one’s making our decisions, we’re the one’s choosing our words – and as such we’re the origin point of practopia, as well as the origin point of the excuse, as stating that a better world for all is a utopia.

There is in-fact free choice and that is between choosing practopia, or choosing the delusion of utopia. I know what I’ve decided – I’ve decided to live practopia into existence as myself here in every moment of breath; will you join me?

Human-beings, it’s time we stop hating ourselves and actually create a world that we want to live in, because we’re worthy of that – because I decide that we are – cool huh? That’s the application of free choice in action – I make the decision that I am worthy of a better life, and I live that decision here as breath; until it’s done, and heaven is in-fact here on earth, both within me and without.

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