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Day 268: Creating Movement – Part 6: Baby Steps To Change

baby_stepsIn my last blog in the ‘Creating Movement’-series I ended off with saying that in this blog I was going to cover the Rewards of changing apathy, and laziness into movement. Since then I have realized that there is an important point that must be covered before we go into the dimension of the Rewards. That is why, in this blog, we are going to looking at the point of implementing change through the use of the Baby Steps-method.

A commonly occurring pattern in us human beings, is that when we want to change something – let us say laziness – we want to change it ALL and preferably from one day to the next. We write, or speak these solemn words, were we promise to ourselves that change will be implemented, change will come through, and whether it is the last thing we do, we will make it happen. Fascinatingly enough, when the time to change is here, and we are supposed to live, and implement our words, we fall, and cannot manifest our intention into physical reality. Then, the next stop on the ferries wheel is that we judge ourselves, and we speak seriously about our failure, and damn our mistakes: “Why is not possible for me to change?” is voiced, or thought, almost as a form of prayer to a higher entity that is seemingly taking a great joy in seeing us struggle.

Conclusion: This way of approaching change is not sustainable, and neither does it make change easy or enjoyable. Instead change becomes a pressure and a burden, and when we fall it becomes an excuse for us to judge ourselves – and this might eventually lead us to completely give up on ourselves and the change we desire. Thus, a much more effective, and productive way to approach change is through taking Baby Steps – and this means that instead of trying to change it ALL, and in one go – we instead change one small part of the pattern. We place our focus and attention on one aspect of the issue we have, and commit ourselves to change this first instead of taking on the entire pattern in one go.

Let me share an example with you: When I was studying, I had a tendency to every morning as I got up, and sat down by my desk to study, to after a while feel tired, and then proceed to the sofa and continue my studies there. Now, this always, without exception lead me to falling asleep, and also to retain information less effectively, and accordingly I wanted to change this pattern for myself, and thus sit by my desk when I studied. I first tried to change the pattern all in one go, but the temptation to sit/lie down in my coach was too big, and so I fell. Even though I wanted to change myself, the sofa just felt so comfortable and nice, and I was not willing to give it up.

Then I started to approach the change slightly differently, instead of wanting to change the entire pattern all in one go, I decided to, while in the sofa, sit up a little more straight, and practice focusing on what I was reading. This change I managed to pull through, because it was just a matter of pushing myself up against the backrest of the sofa a few centimeters. When I had that point down, after a while, what started to take place was that I went to my desk to study instead. I didn’t even make it an actual decision within myself to ‘not study in the couch’ – though because I had managed to pull through the change of sitting a little bit more straight, and focusing more clearly on the text, when reading in the sofa, this made it a lot easier for me to from there, move to actually sit by my desk. And this is the principle of Baby Steps – you place your change into creation using small incremental steps – one by one – and the common sense behind this goes again in all forms of change.

For example: If you wish to be able to run a marathon, and you’ve never jogged before, it would be a wise call if you first learned to, and worked up the stamina to jog. Only after that should you try to run. And if we look at school, there is a gradual increase in difficulty level – and this can be seen in most types of activities. Though strangely enough, many of us forget to apply the Baby Steps-mentality when it is comes to self-change, and changing a compromising pattern within ourselves into a supportive. Though, the fact of the matter is that, they are the same – no difference.

So, let us be patient with ourselves, give ourselves some slack, and when we change from laziness/apathy into movement, that we do it in incremental steps – little by little – challenge by challenge – decision by decision. Even though the change might feel as if it is moving too slow when you move forward with Baby Steps – it does not – because when we change using baby steps we know that we are going to get through. While, when we try to do that one, big momentous change, the probability is that we are going to fall, and then, in worst-case scenario, simply give up on our change and what we wanted for ourselves.

In my next blog, instead of discussing rewards, I am going to look more closely into how we tend to moralize change, and through that create even more resistance within ourselves when it comes to actually transforming our living actions to be supportive and nourishing.

Creating Movement – Part 1: Introduction
Creating Movement – Part 2: How laziness is created – external causes
Creating Movement – Part 3: How Laziness is Created – Internal Causes
Creating Movement – Part 4: Learning To Handle Resistance
Creating Movement – Part 5: Practical Solutions for Resistance
Creating Movement – Part 6: Baby Steps To Change
Creating Movement – Part 7: The Rewards

Day 247: Creating Movement – Part 1

girl-261182_640This blog post will be the start of a series of blogs where I will share how I changed myself from being without movement and direction, to being motivated, driven, and proactive. I know that there are many out there like me – that just do not feel like doing anything – and I mean – literally nothing sparks an interest within you. In today’s society many view this state of apathy as a weakness, and also as an unchangeable aspect of the individual – a so-called characteristic. I have found these apparent facts to be merely beliefs, because truth is that everyone is capable of changing – AND – another surprising thing is that those caught in apathy and listlessness, in-fact have the greatest potential for change. The reason being that these people are able to CREATE their own definition of drive and movement, and become this movement as a self-expression – and this way of motion is vastly superior to any form of energetic movement that exists in our current society today, such as passion, excitement or desire.

The simple truth is that energetic motivation is a lie – an illusion – motivation isn’t ever needed for movement to be created – and this is basically the underlying realization that have guided me in my process of transcending laziness, lack of direction, and apathy – I don’t need to enjoy what I do – and this is a great strength. I recently finished law school, and my father came to me and asked me: “So, what area of the law are you going to specialize in? What do you enjoy?” – I looked at the question within me and answered: “Honestly, I don’t enjoy anything of it” – and then I continued: “Though that isn’t a weakness, because it means I can pick whatever area of expertise that I see holds a potential” – and this describes the power of SELF-motivation. Because I don’t enjoy any particular subject, I have a total freedom when selecting what I am going to do with my life, and because I don’t need joy or passion to move myself into a particular direction – I simply require the facts of the equation. That is enough – then I move.

Compare this way of living to someone that follows their heart that have a passion or desire which drives them to achieve and create in their life. Let us take for example, someone who aspires to become a fulltime musician. For those that do not know, this profession is extremely competitive and there is very little money to be earned. Few, very few are able to sustain themselves as musicians. Though, because this individual desires to be a musician, he will disregard the facts and still go for his dream, because he has a feeling of being motivated, a feeling of being driven, a feeling of being excited, that he use to move forward towards his goal. Though, this drive and motivation will cease, and disappear, because after a while the hope that fuels this dream will run out, as our aspiring musician face the reality of the situation. Only at that point will the person reconsider their plans, and potentially move into a different direction, and probably without any particular ambitions within his new direction – why? That is because he does not feel or experience drive or passion towards this new area of his life.

What I have just described is a problem in many people’s lives – we tend to disregard the facts and follow what we feel – though we forget one fact: In this world, nobody cares about how we feel, because reality is based on facts, and if those facts speaks against us – there is nothing we can do. Thus, when we follow our feelings, follow our experiences, and unless we are lucky, we will eventually run into reality – and that is going to hurt. This is why people that lack the experience of drive and motivation have a significant advantage – because to them it simply doesn’t matter what direction they take – because they feel nothing about it.

I am not saying that people that do experience a drive, and motivation, as feelings, are any less able to recreate their relationship towards the skill of momentum, though they are not in an optimum position. I know, because I was one of those that completely lacked motivation, and I have been able to establish a consistent, rock solid, forward motion, based on physical movement, facts, common sense reasoning, and discipline. I haven’t gotten to where I am today based on any experience – the only reason that I have been able to finish law school is because I sat down, read the books, and took the examinations – a physical directive movement.

In this series I am going to show you how I created movement from nothing, how I made decisions and followed through on them without any underlying experience of passion – I am going to lay down my process in detail, so that you can do the same as I did. The fact is that everyone can learn to create and drive their lives, and that nobody has to remain lazy, or apathetic – though it will not come by itself, every process of creation comes with its trials and errors. Hopefully you will be able to avoid many of my own mistakes, and create your own disciplined movement faster and more efficiently with the help of this blog.

In the next blog I will start covering how I came to create my pattern of laziness and apathy – I will see you there.

Creating Movement – Part 1: Introduction
Creating Movement – Part 2: How laziness is created – external causes
Creating Movement – Part 3: How Laziness is Created – Internal Causes
Creating Movement – Part 4: Learning To Handle Resistance
Creating Movement – Part 5: Practical Solutions for Resistance
Creating Movement – Part 6: Baby Steps To Change
Creating Movement – Part 7: The Rewards

Day 214: Stress and Success

I’ve now for about a week been working with a stress-experience in relation to studies and work, due to this experience becoming too much – and I saw that I required acting and doing something about it.

Thus I listened to the Atlanteans interviews that covers this point of stress – great interviews for anyone facing a similar point. In this they share how to sound the self-forgiveness in order to break through and penetrate the stress energy – it’s a specific sound – though to get the details you’ll have to invest in the interview yourself.

Anyway, I’ve been playing and working with this sound – that briefly can be described as a decisive sound – and I’ve noticed how it’s a very effective tool to use for me to stabilize and enable myself to move through the stress reaction as it arise within. I’ve also seen that the stress-reaction doesn’t have anything to do with my environment, my job, or my studies in themselves – rather this reaction is merely a automated coping mechanism – it doesn’t serve any purpose at all in terms of actually getting things done, caring for my survival and creating my future.

Thus – it’s fascinating to see how I’ve relied on stress to drive me forward in life, and to be my motivation – and actually trusting stress to be a effective motivation for me to move – though stress is not needed to get things done. No – the only thing that is needed, is me making the decision, then walking the point – and when being free from stress and fear – this makes me much more capable of focusing and concentrating on the task at hand – and producing a quality result – instead of stressing through the point only to get it done – and in that doing it halfway.

When I don’t stress – but rather move through the point in breath – naturally and comfortably with my body – then time actually slows down and even though I move slower – I do get more things done. Obviously this goes to show the capacity of self-expression that opens up when we stop our mind – because then we’re able to bring our full awareness into reality and actually be HERE with what we are creating. That point of being HERE with the physical in the process of creation is what allows for real effectiveness to step forth – and this is something that can only happen without stress, without tension, without worry, and without fear – because it’s a natural state of being – it’s the physical body expressing itself at it’s fullest potential without any mind interference.

The quintessence of this blog and my realization is thus that – the less I stress – the more success I’ll have in my life.

Self-forgiveness

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to participate within and as future projections of what I have to do – and in my mind play out the various tasks that I have before me – or that I think I should do – in I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate such tasks and points with stress and go into stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become stressed when and as I have things – tasks before me that I require to handle – direct and walk through – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think and believe that I am saving time through going into stress – and that through stressing and moving myself in this stress I will be able to get more things done – and I will do the things that I require attention and thus secure my survival

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate taking care of my survival within this world with stress – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become stressed when and as I involved with my studies, or my work – or any other point in relation to creating a future for myself in this world – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to move and motivate myself with stress – not seeing, realizing and understanding that I don’t in-fact need stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that I don’t need or require stress to create myself, my future and my life in this world – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that without stress I’d have no willpower and no momentum to create myself – and that I would just slack and slouch – and loose my movement and direction – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate movement and direction with and as stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to copy my parents – and the way they moved and directed themselves in their lives – where they moved themselves with stress – and in this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take on the point of moving myself with stress – of believing that the only way to get things done fast – effectively – and specifically is through utilizing stress

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself too when I plan my day – and look at the tasks I’ve before me – and that I require to complete and move myself through – to go into stress – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to associate planning my day – structuring and sectionalizing my day with stress – and believe that to be effective and specific with time I require to be stressed

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that I can move and direct myself through my life – create myself and my future – plan my day and my time – utilize my moments throughout the day effectively without giving into stress – without using stress as a fuel for me to move forward in life

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not trust myself to stand as momentum and drive to create myself and my future – to create my life – and see, realize and understand that the only thing I need is making a decision – deciding what I am going to do and then doing it

Self-commitment statements

When and as I see that I go into stress as I am about to start my day, or begin with my studies, or go to work, or plan my day – I immediately stop myself, I take a breath and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand how it’s in no way needed for me to stress in order to effectively walk my day – structure my responsibilities – and define what I require to do and then plan my day accordingly – all I need and require to do that is myself – and making a decision about what I am going to do – and then walking that decision; thus I commit myself to change stress – into seeing what there is I require to do – then making a decision to walk the point and do it without any experience of stress – rather simply doing it

When and as I see that I am going into stress, because I think that there are many points ahead of me that I require to direct, and walk through, I immediately stop myself, I take a breath and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand that there is no need or requirement for me to stress in order to get done what I require to get done – and thus a more common sense direction would be to prioritize what I must do – then plan my time so that I can practically walk through and direct the points – and make sure that I have enough time to walk the points with quality – and thus I commit myself to practically look at the time at my disposal – and prioritize my tasks – and then walk them one by one in breath – and not stress about what I’ve not done – but rather be here and do what it is that I am doing here – thus placing my focus and attention on what I am creating and shaping here as my life