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Day 405: Practically Living Care

Today I practiced living the word CARE – and my starting point within it was that I wanted to find practical and concrete ways to live the word. I found a couple of ways to live this word that I had not considered or related to the word care.

The first thing I did was that I, when it was lunch time at work, went to the grocery store and bought some really nice coffee beans, bread, butter and liver pate. Because I really like to ground my own coffee and drink it right away after my lunch – however I tend to procrastinate going to the store and buying the coffee when I have run out of it. However, as an act of care for myself, I decided to go out and buy it as soon as I ran out of it. And because of this I could prepare a nice cup of coffee and drink as an addition to my meal.

As I shared above, I also bought bread, butter and liver pate. I did this because I have for a long time considered having a small storage of light food at work to eat during the afternoons. Usually when I get home from work I am really, really hungry, and hence it was suggested to me to eat a small portion of solid food a couple of hours after lunch. However, I had not, until today that is, realized this idea. For some reason, I had accepted and allowed myself to procrastinate and wait, and now as I write this, I can see within me, that a reason as to why I waited, was because I thought/considered that it was going to get better (by itself) at my next job.

Though, the thing is that my job, my position, will never alter or change WHO I AM at work – that is something that I will change and bring through by my decision and by living it. That is what I did today – so at roughly three o’clock – I prepared a couple of sandwiches for myself and I sat down to eat them. It was great to have some time for myself at the end of my day, to slow down, to restore my blood sugar levels, and to support myself to get through the rest of the day. And when I got home later during the evening – I was not as hungry as I use to be.

So, these might seem as some very simple points – however – for me they were acts of CARE. And I am beginning to see, more and more, that implementing words in my life, in a way that is concrete and practical, begins with changing the small, simple, rudimentary things and parts of my life – such as for example – making sure that I am adequately nurtured throughout my day by having proper access to food.

 


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Day 348: Living What Is Best, Practically

Today I looked at the following question within me: What does it mean to really CARE about life and LIVE what is best for all?

I looked at myself, my life, and my considerations in terms of future, particularly when it comes to money, and career, and I was able to see, that even though I have at times told myself that I am walking a certain direction, because I care about life and what is best for all, within me, there has always been that undercurrent of desire/greed/self-interest. And what I have realized as of late, is that this underlying positive energetic movement is fueled by negative experiences, primarily fear. Thus, this is why I have looked at the question, what would it really mean to live what is best for all?

And here I want to clarify, both for myself, and the reader, that doing what is best for all is not a selfless act – because SELF is part of ALL – and hence – BEST for ALL is also BEST for SELF – though in consideration and with regard for everyone else.

What is best for all is also and always PRACTICAL – for the simple reason that – unless something is practical – then it must be forced and when something is forced – compromise will be created in some form or another. An example would be a how it does not make sense to force a puzzle piece into place where it is not meant to be, as that might damage the piece, and the puzzle will not be at its full potential. Another important word with a similar definition is COMPATIBILITY. A solution that is best for all is always compatible – it is aligned with and designed to improve and support the participants involved.

However, only because something is practical and compatible does not mean that is best. It is surely practical to keep our lives small, repetitive, and isolated, it makes us more apt at surviving and dealing with our small lives – however – it is not optimal – it is not our full potential. Hence, another aspect of living/creating what is best, is that the decision/direction must improve, support, expand, and enhance – it must bring out the best in ourselves and those around us.

One way of taking this principle into practical application is through doing what we like to do, in a way that is best for all – as that combines the point of practicality (doing what comes easy to us) with support and expansion (doing it in a way that is best for everyone). An example would be the following. Let us say that we really enjoy making music. Then we could devote ourselves to that hobby, and at the same time integrate an aspect of sharing ourselves with others, through let’s say, giving away free lessons in learning how to play a instrument, or supporting newly formed bands to find a place to rehearse. Thus, what this shows is that Living What Is Best is not limited – it is a principle that can be brought through everywhere – and the more we utilize our creative abilities and think out of the box – the more we will be able to expand this way of living.

This also goes to show another point, that living what is best is not confined to only one part of our life, or, to only our external reality. We can apply this approach to our own minds – and ask ourselves when a thought comes up: Is this thought practical? Is this thought supportive? And if both of those questions are answered negatively – we know that the thought must be removed.

Thus to conclude – what does it mean to live what is best for all? – It means that 1) We live/decide/move according to what is practical, and 2) We make sure our decisions are supportive/enhance/expand everyone involved.


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2012 My Experience With Self-Forgiveness

When I first came into contact with self-forgiveness, my initial reaction was curiosity – what is this? Why should I apply self-forgiveness? My second reaction was that of me wondering within myself, but does this really work? I mean, can it really be this simple; to just speak the words and then it’s done?

That was about all of the reactions that I had towards self-forgiveness – and apart from that my experience was that I couldn’t really put my head around and understand it; though I go to any great lengths in my attempt to understand what it was all about – instead I – with no hesitation – started to apply self-forgiveness, to instead see for myself what it was all about.

The reason that I did decide to apply self-forgiveness was because of the results that I saw it had on other people that I had gotten to know, and herein I am specifically referring to Bernard Poolman from Desteni – which was a living example – in my face – that to change oneself is in-fact possible. Especially the stories that Bernard shared, of how he’d transcended several points through simply pushing himself to apply self-forgiveness I thought was impressing – I could see that this is not fake, this man has actually changed through usage of this tool, and thus, this is not something I am going to miss out upon – even if I don’t understand why, or how it works; and as such I decided to start applying self-forgiveness.

Though what is worth to be mentioned here, in regards to me realizing that self-forgiveness is one of the tools that will in-fact assist and support me to self-freedom, is that I initially thought that self-forgiveness alone would set me free; I placed trust into the application of self-forgiveness, and as such missed to see the importance of living my self-forgiveness practically in my world – which the actual change. Thus – what is important to understand and be clear upon for anyone that begins to apply and walk with, through and as self-forgiveness, is that it won’t supply any miracles, such as you speaking the words, and then suddenly you being as free as a bird – no – self-forgiveness is a support for self to stand up and will self to be free – yet self must actually walk the correction, though to do and enable this, self-forgiveness is a very powerful and invaluable tool.

Due to my mistake, of believing that self-forgiveness would save me, I had to walk a small detour (time-loop), through which I came to the understanding and realization that self-forgiveness alone wasn’t going to change me – I had to also live the self-forgiveness that I spoke – practically – and physically. But after realizing the mistake that I’d made – I applied myself within my new and aligned understanding of self-forgiveness, and realized it’s actual potential, and as such I started to apply it – almost daily – as a assistance and support – using it as a source of clarity, support and insight – as I faced, walked through, and corrected myself as me my inner mind-demons.

And what has been so fascinating about using self-forgiveness to walk through thoughts, experiences and possessions that has come up as I’ve walked this process, is that I through using self-forgiveness to self-reflect upon my behaviors and ways of living, I haven’t fallen into the trap of judging myself as bad or evil because of my fuck-ups and flaws – as this was before the starting point from within which I would look at myself.

For example, I would in a moment lash out in anger towards my mother, and if I then didn’t have my self-forgiveness, I would’ve gone into the mind, and looked at my behavior through thinking, and simply judged it as being bad, and saying to myself that I am not going to repeat what I did towards my mom – but without ever gaining any kind of insight as to how I created this anger, and how I am as such to stop this anger – as such effectively setting myself up to lash out yet again.

Yet with self-forgiveness, I have been able to look at the fine details of my reactions, to zoom into the specific thoughts, and distinguish and locate the specific words, movements, colors, or sounds that triggered my experience – and through specifically applying self-forgiveness I’ve gotten to know myself to such an extent, that I’ve known exactly, when, how and where this reaction emerges – and as such I’ve been able to when the moment and the reaction yet again arrives, stop myself instantly – knowing exactly what was going on.

So – with self-forgiveness I was able to stop the very shallow application of judging my behaviors, and weaknesses, and instead develop insight, and self-intimacy, and get to know the mechanics of myself deeply – and as such I’ve taken back the directive principle of myself, and set myself free.

I’ve also used self-forgiveness frequently to assist and support myself to get through hard moments in my process, difficult, and uncomfortable experiences, and possessions – when these things have come up within me, and I’ve felt that – I am going crazy – I am becoming overwhelmed – I’ve sat down by my computer and started to apply self-forgiveness. This has always assisted me immensely, and the times have been few when this hasn’t in-fact enabled me to stop my possession, or experience, and get myself back to reality. Thus self-forgiveness has been my stability, and my companion – a point that I’ve been able to rely upon when nothing else has made sense.

Through using self-forgiveness I’ve also learned to distinguish what’s my mind, and what is me – as breath – as here; because as I’ve used self-forgiveness, the truth of what is in-fact the mind, and not real, has glaringly, and clearly stared me in the face – I’ve experienced it as if self-forgiveness makes my inner reality – for a moment – crystal clear – wherein I am able to see what I am doing, how I am doing it, seeing what is my mind, and what is my physical – and from this starting point within myself I’ve then able to correct myself, and direct myself in a way that is best for all – this I would’ve never been able to do without self-forgiveness.

Thus – in essence – self-forgiveness has in my process up to this point served as my reality check, but also as my binuclear into myself – with which I am able to take a good look at all the thoughts, experiences, reactions, definitions, opinions that exist within me – it has also served as my “cloak of invisibility/clarity” – because within using self-forgiveness, I’ve experienced it as if the I am, as EGO for a moment disappear – no more justifications – no more opinion  – no more definition – nothing more to defend – but instead only me clearly seeing everything for what it is within me, naming all that goes on within me in words, bringing it out, not being all personal about it, but instead standing within a state of objectivity – wherein I am able to see what I am in-fact doing – without any sugar, or badness coating – in simple terms – the veil of self-delusion have been ripped off!

What I’ve transcended in process so-far through the usage of self-forgiveness, is amongst other things, fear of people, anger issues, competition issues, self-judgments towards my body, laziness, and self-centeredness – obviously the process is continuously unfolding, and as such new points pop up as new layers are revealed – and as such I might still experience fear, and self-judgment – yet comparing who I am today, with who I was before I started to apply self-forgiveness, I am able to say that I am in-fact a new human being – that is the extent to how I’ve changed – and specifically in terms of those points that I mentioned above.

Thus – If I would give you a practical hands example as a comparison between who I am now, to who I was before self-forgiveness, let’s take a look at my experience in school: before I started to apply self-forgiveness, I was afraid to speak with other, and I was very much concerned about what types of clothes I was wearing – because I wanted to look good to others, and be seen as a well-dressed man, afraid that others would speak behind my back if I wasn’t – I was also very much lost in competition, as I constantly tried to become friends with those I considered to be “popular” – and never really accepting and allowing myself to be satisfied with myself, and talk, or share myself with anyone in my world – no matter what type of a status they would be seen as having by others.

Now when I go to school I am confident with myself, and I am comfortable with myself – I am comfortable being alone, and being without friends, and I am comfortable speaking to, and sharing myself with others – I am also not worried as to what type of a impression that I make upon people with my clothes – and I don’t really worry about others speaking about me behind my back – in essence I would describe my change as me becoming more relaxed and at ease with myself – even though there are definitely still some points to work.

I recommend the application of self-forgiveness to others, because it opens up the opportunity to in-fact be able to change the insanity of the inner reality of self, and instead stand up as a self-directed, and self-motivated human-being – self-forgiveness presents the chance for self to end the irrelevant, and constant backchat of fear and worry – “What do others think of me?” – “Do I have enough friends?” – “Do others like me enough?” – so one can instead focus upon what is important here in life – which is living – breathing – being – and expressing self here.

Thus – self-forgiveness is the key to a new a life, and experience of self – and that is why I recommend it to everyone – it’s a completely new reality that unfolds and opens up, a new experience, a completely unknown, and unexplored world that has been missed is allowed to be found – something that we’ve missed because we’ve been so busy living and existing in our minds – and it’s as such the key back to reality, back to self, as the physical.

Changing self can only be done through the utilization of self-forgiveness – why? Because our inner reality is a fuck-up, a fuck-up that is so vast, and so intimately ingrained with ourselves, that we don’t in-fact know it’s a fuck-up – we think that it’s normal – and that it’s “who we are”. But through using self-forgiveness we for a moment open up a little window into reality, which we’re able to peak into and see – my god – this is a fuck-up, and this absolutely not normal! And within this “my god” – we are able to change ourselves, as we realize – real-eyes – that we’ve been living a fuck-up – and that this fuck-up is not who we are – but who we’ve created and brainwashed ourselves to be – and as such we’re able to change it.

Thus – attempting to change us without self-forgiveness is impossible, because we’ve invested so much trust in our personalities, thoughts, reactions, experiences, beliefs, and ideas – that we simply can’t imagine that this isn’t who we are – I mean who are we without our thoughts? Can we really live and exist without our mind? Yes – we are – yet that self that is hidden beneath the layers of thoughts, reactions and experiences – that is not of the mind – can only be found through giving up that which we’ve defined ourselves as, which is our mind – and it’s impossible to see that we’ve in-fact defined ourselves according to something that isn’t actually us – without specifically, and intimately naming – placing and categorizing – the existence of the mind-constructs – as all that which moves within us – and that we’ve created inside ourselves; self-forgiveness is the glasses that we put on – to be able to see who we are – and then we use self-forgiveness as the eraser – to erase that which isn’t who we are, and in the process we get to know – what is in-fact the real self.

Thus – applying self-forgiveness is the process of self discovering self – self giving birth to self – self becoming intimate with self – and it’s a process of discovery and accumulation that no-one would like to miss out on – take my word for it, because I’ve seen and I daily live the benefits of self-forgiveness – practically and measurably – here.

Being Pragmatic Can Mean Many Things

Pragmatic is the most looked up word in the Merriam Webster dictionary this year.

In common understanding, the word pragmatic has a positive connotation to it – when you are pragmatic, you’re sensible, reasonable, and you don’t let emotions get in your way – reality is seen for what it is and decisions are taken accordingly; yet does this definition of pragmatic in-fact make the word positive? Or is this word secretly a word of evil – used to manipulate and deceive?

Let’s take a look at the dictionary definition of pragmatic:

Pragmatic according to http://www.thefreedictionary.com/mat

  1. 1.   Dealing or concerned with facts or actual occurrences; practical.
  2. 2.   Philosophy Of or relating to pragmatism.
  3. 3.   Relating to or being the study of cause and effect in historical or political events with emphasis on the practical lessons to be learned from them.
  4. 4.   Archaic

a)    Active; busy.

b)    Active in an officious or meddlesome way.

c)     Dogmatic; dictatorial

What can be deducted and understood from reading the above definition is that pragmatic is related to physical consequence – to what you do, or do not do, which can be measured physically here. For example – if you take a tennis ball, and you throw it into a glass window so that it breaks – it’s pragmatic to assume that the cause of the window breaking was the tennis ball that was thrown into it. Yet – the interesting question remains – does the fact that you’re pragmatic mean that your actually reasonable, actually benevolent, and truly caring – or does the definition and meaning of pragmatic have secret alleyways and backdoors in which you’re able to hide your true intentions?

Let’s look at the following scenario: a CEO finds out that he’s able to make more profit if he fires his old employers and replaces them with young employers, as young employers would be more productive and effective – herein the CEO study the practicalities of the situation and he’s as such pragmatic. The CEO goes through with his newly found solution and he makes profit – yet the old workers are now laid off without any ability to get a new job, or a full pension, which means that their life is going to become a lot tougher; and as you see – the CEO was pragmatic in this case – yet still he was evil and created consequences for others that he himself wouldn’t have wanted to experience.

This is why the current definition of pragmatic can’t be trusted – the word is open for interpretation, and it doesn’t have a pre-determined value, foundation or principle – it’s instead but the act of being able to see cause and effect. As such the word can be used in order to abuse – stating that it’s pragmatic to earn money, and benefit on the plight of the old – it’s pragmatic to re-direct production to sweat-shop factories – because it makes me more money! The fact that those actions in nature are evil isn’t considered.

Thus – when someone state that he’s pragmatic – realize that this doesn’t mean or say anything about his character, or about the nature of the decision he will make – what makes all the difference is from what starting point you apply the mentality and view of pragmatism; when pragmatism is applied from within and as the starting point of greed and profit it’s abusive – when it’s instead applied from within and as the starting point of what’s best for all – it’s a solution that will bring heaven to earth.

Pragmatic as such is but a skill, a ability to consider cause and effect – it’s not a value and not a principle – yet when the principle of what’s best for all, as doing onto another what you would like to be done onto you is integrated into the definition of the word – it becomes a effective and trustworthy tool, which one can practically live and consequently make a difference in this world.

Pragmatic as it’s current definition is as such abusive – as it’s open to interpretation, wherein the foundation and principle is for the observer to decide upon with his free will – instead of the principle and foundation already being decided and set in stone; as what is best for all.

To be pragmatic and live the word, as a statement of what is best for all would mean that I: consider all my actions and their consequences, making sure that I harm no one – pushing and willing myself to at all times remain consistent in looking at myself as a practical being, realizing that the very fact that I exist, and live as a physical entity – means that I have a responsibility for how and what I live – as my way of life ripples out into the world, and my reality. As such to be pragmatic means that I stand within the principle of what is best for all – and from such a vantage point look at this reality through and as cause and effect – asserting myself that I as the cause will always bring forth the effect as what is best for all.

Let’s live as pragmatic beings – within the principle of what is best for all and as such create a new world – for real – that is physical, tangible, substantial and not but a dream in our mind!

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