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Day 331: Why We Should Reinvent Our Childhood

“Compared with adults, children do not yet have the ability to see a self that extends temporally into the future. This, however, is not a liability, but rather an asset that allows them to view their future without gloom and fully enjoy the present feelings of happiness. That is why the children of the world can look happy so long as they are happy in the present.”

― Yoichi Sakakihara, M.D., Professor of Ochanomizu University

Childhood, I remember that as a time in my life that was thoroughly enjoyable. Obviously, that is not so for everyone, as childhood can also be a terrible experience. However, as children, undoubtedly we do have an ability to live in the moment that surpasses that of any adult. I remember when I used to visit new places as a child, for example a forest, being sensitive, attuned, and completely in the present moment, it was an adventure without comparison. All my senses were active in experiencing and interacting with this new environment – and that ability to be FULLY here in the moment was what contributed to creating that almost magical feeling of adventure and astonishment at the small moments, that by adults were perceived as insignificant or completely missed.

This skill disappears as we age, and that is sad, because obviously, we as adults also need that sense of adventure and fulfillment in our lives, else, we simply become like robots, walking around to our next appointment, doing our thing, without really knowing why. From my perspective, and from what I have found, the reason why we loose this ability to be in the present moment is because we compare what is here to what has been, we actively use our experiences and memory-bank to define and give points to our current reality. This use of memory to interact with reality also dulls our senses and makes us less sensitive and attuned to the present moment. We thus miss so much of reality, because we are busy in our mind evaluating what is here, instead of LIVING with what is here.

One clear example of this is how adults tend to judge weather such as rain, storms, cold, and similar, as ‘bad weather’ and enter a gloomy experience, and oftentimes complain at the weather. What children do with bad weather is that they embrace it and allow themselves to experience and be part of and explore that particular moment of weather. For example, rain becomes an adventure without likes, as rain offers pools of water, and different animals come out from their hiding places to get moisture and look for food. Children hence know and apply one thing in their lives that we adults tend to miss, it is not about where we are, not about what we are, not about when we are, it is about WHO WE ARE – basically meaning that – we DECIDE what our present moment will be like – either a moment of presence/interaction/connection with the physical – or a moment of existing in our mind comparing what is here to what we would like it to be like.

As adults we look for life in all the wrong places, because we have forgotten that point of presence which we embodied as children. Life will not ever be born through realizing a dream or reaching a goal, such points are merely moments of satisfaction, and enjoyment, though not the same thing as the constant and fulfilling approach to reality that children master. Hence, the secret to life does not exist in changing our material physical world, it is instead within us, in our approach, and in essence, in our relationship with ourselves. If we want to have fulfillment, adventure, and enjoyment in our lives, this is where we should look, and not make the mistake of believing that the problem is our physical reality.

The above though is only true to some extent. We do undoubtedly have physical needs, we have to eat, drink, shit and piss – and if our basic needs are not fulfilled effectively – then it is not possible, or at least very difficult, to embody presence and live fully in every moment. This is why we require a new economic system with an equal distribution of resources – to make sure that everyone has to opportunity to discover and live their unconditional and childlike expression in this world.

What is then the solution? How is it that we return to our childlike selves? I find the following quote very supportive in this regard.

“Stop thinking, and end your problems.
What difference between yes and no?
What difference between success and failure?
Must you value what others value,
avoid what others avoid?
How ridiculous!

Other people are excited,
as though they were at a parade.
I alone don’t care,
I alone am expressionless,
like an infant before it can smile.

Other people have what they need;
I alone possess nothing.
I alone drift about,
like someone without a home.
I am like an idiot, my mind is so empty.

Other people are bright;
I alone am dark.
Other people are sharp;
I alone am dull.
Other people have purpose;
I alone don’t know.
I drift like a wave on the ocean,
I blow as aimless as the wind.

I am different from ordinary people.
I drink from the Great Mother’s breasts.”

― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

The solution to stopping our continuous adult contemplation and replace it with LIFE is to STOP thinking. Thinking not only steals our attention from the present moments, it also becomes the building blocks of our life, and the problem here is that we have not even investigated the consequences of our thoughts; what does our thoughts really create? We must remind ourselves that the future will only ever be an abstract concept, something we use to make sense of time and space, however, LIFE will only ever be HERE. Thus, when we think about the future it should only be to organize and plan for our life HERE, yet that plan must not, and in reality cannot, take precedence of what is HERE. Hence, a plan, or a goal, will never in itself fulfill us, give us peace and joy – if we want to experience such words for real – they must be created HERE in our everyday life – in the mundane and recurrent. And in doing that, what we will discover and understand, which children already see, is that life HERE is not mundane, it is a constant flow of new moments that we can only ever really see if we stop thinking and instead place our full awareness in the present.

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Day 294: Why Winning Is A Limitation

Is winning something good? Does winning benefit and support us in our expression?

It is normal to view winning as a positive experience. Winning is something most people strive towards, in various ways. Winning in our career through getting the best job, winning in our personal lives through having the best partner, winning in our education through having the best marks, and so on. Winning is a lifestyle that has become particularly accentuated in our fast paced lives. Though, there is a backside to winning, something that is easily missed or shunned, as the experience of winning is so tempting, exciting, and positive.

I will take an example from my own life which shows that becoming obsessed with, and defining oneself according to the experience winning is in-fact a limitation. It goes back to my years in elementary school. It was easy for me in school and I managed to get comparatively good marks. I was not necessarily the best, however, I was doing good – good enough for me to see myself as a ‘winner’. Then came a big change in my life, as my parents decided that our family was to move to another part of our country. I had to start a new school, and in that, I was now marked according to new standards. In this new school, I did not achieve the marks I had hoped for, and consequently, I went into an experience of feeling like a loser, and being depressed because I did not win anymore. This led me to struggle, fight, and push so that I could move myself forward in school, and get better marks again. To some extent I succeeded with achieving better marks at my new school, and again I went into that comfort zone of feeling like a winner – comparatively good at what I was doing.

Now, some might ask, what is the problem with this? You were quite good at school, had some problems, and then sorted it out, what is the story?

The problem is the fact that my drive, ambition, and push was always defined within the limits of energy and how I felt. I only pushed myself to excel and become better when I felt like I did not match my peers. Only then did it become relevant for me to go through the trials and tribulations to actually expand myself – and that is a LIMITATION. The fact is that, the moment we base our feeling of ourselves through comparison against others, we put a cap on our ability to excel, and expand. We only go as far as is required to feel feel good about ourselves, though not as far as we are able to take it.

Later in my life I decided to study law, and during this period of time I came to realize some important points about learning, self-expansion, and self-creation. I realized that if I want to become really good at what I am doing, I cannot use others as a benchmark. Instead, I must listen to myself, and be self-honest – I must be willing to admit to myself when I am not living to the utmost of my ability and then have the discipline to actively change myself. Having this perspective, studies, learning, work, and career becomes about self-perfection – it becomes about being the best that you are able to be – where there is no comparison – because you do it for yourself. That is also the definition of self-fulfillment – where you fill yourself through challenging yourself, through actively moving forward, through tirelessly looking at where, and how you can push yourself to become more.

Winning as such is a limitation because in making winning the focus you loose touch with yourself and your own potential. In winning, you have to conform to standards of what is considered right, and wrong – however your fullest potential might not even be able to be compartmentalized in such limited words as right, and wrong. Consider for example the work of Bruce Lee. He did not become the best karate or kung fu practitioner – instead he developed his own martial arts where he could express his own unique movements and physical characteristics fully. The same is true with any form of skill or ability that is being developed. To find and realize our full potential, we must do it for ourselves, we must listen to ourselves, and be open to what comes through from within.

The solution to this problem of being addicted to and driven by the desire to win is as such to let ourselves lose. Let go of the hierarchy, of who is the best, and who is the worst, and let us instead look at who we are, and how we can become the best version of OURSELVES. Let us find that innate and deep drive to develop and realize ourselves and make it the quest in all aspects of our lives to find out how much more we be.

Day 148: Realizing My Responsibility

I am continuing to expand on the commitments that I made – and today I am going to show how I’ve practically lived and applied in my life the commitment of: Realizing that by the virtue of me being in this world – my responsibility does not only extend to my own Mind / my own Life, but to the minds and lives of everything and everyone of this earth and so my commitment is to extend this awareness to all of humanity to work together and live together to make this world heaven on earth for ourselves and the generations to come

This particular commitment implies a movement, a action, the living of a decision to place myself out there, to look at how and where I can place myself in this world to have an impact – in other words taking active responsibility for not only myself but the future of this world, humanity, earth, the animals and the world-system we as human beings live and exist within.

Early in my process I realized that in order for change to come through in this world, as well as in my personal life, I require to work together with others, I require to align myself with a group of people that hold the same intention as me, and then walk with them, and utilize the supportive environment of a group to strengthen, motivate, and make my presence in this life more powerful and impactful – accordingly I aligned myself with the group of Desteni – and through walking with the group of Desteni I have actively and on a regular basis involved myself in group projects wherein I’ve together with others pushed to birth an awareness of the reality we as humanity are facing on this earth and in ourselves.

One of the Desteni projects that have had an significant impact both in my own personal life as well as in the life’s of others has been writing my Journey to Life blog – because through writing this blog I have made sure that the principle of acting and living what is best for all, as well as the support tools of self-forgiveness and self-writing, have been placed out there for others to take part of and within that see with their own eyes that there is in-fact a solution to the problems of this world – and that this solution exists within ourselves = its the decision to change, and live our fullest potential, and in a practically speaking, give as we’d like to receive and make that our guiding principle in everything we do.

Apart from my commitment to walk with the Desteni group, I have in my personal life made the decision to study law, and embark on a career where I know that I can have a significant impact – I have understood that I do only have this ONE life, and that the only way I can live this ONE life within honor and self-respect is to make sure that ACT and MOVE myself to correct the horrific and gruesome world we as humanity have managed to create – I have within that understood that in order to have any sort of influence, I require money, and I require to position myself at a point where others will take me seriously.

Thus, I have given up my self-interested desire of what ‘I want to do in life’ – and rather opted for a empowering education and a practical career through which I will be able to enlarge the ambit of my influence in this world – not because it’s the ‘Right’ thing to do – but because its my responsibility – and because its what I’ve wanted anyone else to do for me if they were in my position – because the simplicity of the situation is that this world as it functions currently is unacceptable and to realize this but still not do anything would be a complete abdication of all integrity – and that is not something I am willing to do – thus I give up this one lifetime – in order to bring forth Heaven On Earth.

To sum up, one can say that the essence of how I’ve lived and applied this commitment, is that I’ve given up my preferences, my desires, my wants, my hopes, and dreams, and instead steered myself into groups, responsibilities, and activities where I have or will have an impact, where I can contribute, and where I can practically and realistically speaking make a difference in the life of another, as well as in my own life.

Day 138: But You Should Know By Now!

Continuing with the pattern of annoyance, which has come up recently in my world. The context of the point is that I am assisting and supporting my partner to take her driving license and thus I require transferring all the knowledge that I’ve gathered through driving cars to my partner. Before taking on this project it looked very simple, and in my mind I considered myself to be a good and patient teacher – someone that would be supportive regardless of my partners performance – though this idea of myself have recently been annihilated.

I’ve observed myself, and I am able to see that I frequently become annoyed with my partner, and it’s in particular when my partner express confusion, or uncertainty in regards to a point that I feel we’ve already gone through, and that I consider to be simple – and that I myself can do without any effort. So, here I see that I am expecting my partner to feel the same way I do about driving, and that when I find something to be simple, then this must be so equally for my partner. When this proves to be wrong, instead of dealing with the situation, explaining the point again, looking at specifically what it is my partner have difficulty to understand, I go into this annoyance, and usually remain in the annoyed experience for quite some time – time that I could’ve instead used to actually assist and support my partner to learn driving the car.

Thus – this is the point that I am going to take on and work more with – AND – to ANCHOR (for reference see HERE) this point in the physical – I see that what I am able to do as a correction for when this annoyance comes up within me is to take a Breath – a real long and deep breath – and then say STOP – no need to get annoyed here – rather focus on what is required to be done – which is to support my partner to take her driving license – a process that will not go faster if I accept and allow myself to get annoyed. And then I let go of the annoyance – and if it’s still lingering in me – I allow myself to laugh heartily at the mistake my partner did – and realize that it’s really NO BIG DEAL – then I get back to the matter at hand – which is to support my partner with her driving license.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become annoyed when and as my partner does a mistake, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist within and as the illusion that my partner should already be beyond that, and not anymore make such mistakes – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have expectations on my partner as to how effective, and far in her process she should be, and how fast, and much she should learn – instead of accepting and allowing myself to let go of my ideas of what should be here – so that I can instead work directly with what in-fact is HERE

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to approach challenges, situations, and beings in my world from within and as a starting point of illusion, the illusion being that I have a expectation on this person, or situation and that I believe that this point should behave according to my expectation – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand how it is completely delusional to have a idea, and expectation as to how something should work and behave in my environment, and then become annoyed when that particular point does not work as I expected it to

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not work with things as they are, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become disappointed, frustrated, and irritated when things are not as I want them to be, instead of realizing that its absurd to believe that things in this world are to be as I want them to be, and that its really preposterous to believe that my world is to change, and become according to my wants – obviously that is not how the physical functions – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not rather work with what is in-fact HERE within and as this physical reality moment

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that any form of expectation or want occurring and coming up within my mind is really complete bullshit, because it’s evident that nothing in this world is constructed according to how I think, and according to the positive and negative reactions in my mind – and thus to expect that anything is going to work according to, or function according to how I imagine things in my mind – that is simply absurd, preposterous and ludicrous

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that when I, or my partner make a mistake in learning something new, that this is not a huge problem, that it’s not something done deliberately, that it’s not something to punish, or extinguish, but that it’s rather simply a mistake, that it’s simply that some knowledge have not been effectively integrated into the physical, and thus there is more support, more nourishment, and more tendering required, and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not understand and comprehend the process of learning, and how it’s really unnecessary and a waste of time to blame the physical for not being as fast, and speedy as I want it to be in regards to learning and integrating new information

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be indoctrinated into believing the it’s a virtue to learn things fast, and that the opposite, of learning things slowly, must be punished, and attacked, because it’s apparently this bad characteristic that must be fought and removed, as it’s a pest – instead of seeing, realizing and understand that this is simply how the physical works, that some things some people learn slowly, other things they learn fast, while the opposite is true for other people – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not work with what is here, and to not align myself with how my partner is learning, the speed at which she is integrating the information, and as such be here and support my partner in this integration process instead of accepting and allowing myself to react in annoyance

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that regardless of whether I become annoyed or not, the physical will still learn in the same pace as before, because the physical is simply expressing itself as its ability to learn, and it doesn’t care about my expectations in my mind, it’s simply here and it have a particular pace in which it is integrating information, which is something that I am not able to affect – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not align myself with the learning speed of the physical, to work with the physical, to walk with the physical, to learn with the physical, and not anymore accept and allow myself to fight against the physical and be in this constant struggle to attempt and try to tame the physical to be according to the expectations existing within my mind

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that the physical can’t be tamed, meaning, that the physical can’t be changed through me becoming annoyed at it and wanting to for example, learn faster – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that it’s pointless to fight against the physical, and that it’s obvious common sense to instead facilitate and work with the physical, to look at the learning process and where it can be more aligned to work with the learning abilities of the physical body – instead of just getting angry, and annoyed and thinking that the learning process should go faster

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand that when I am reacting in annoyance towards my partner, I am in-fact spending physical time, inside my mind, physical time that I could’ve instead utilized to calmly, directively, and specifically, instructed my partner, to become more specific, and more effective, and thus I see, realize and understand how emotions of the mind are in-fact counterintuitive – that when going into the mind, becoming annoyed, when is missing out prime time, physical time, that could’ve been used to move the physical reality to a point of effectiveness and accomplishment – and as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand the ineffective nature of the mind, and that in this physical world and reality – reacting to what is happening is not and will never be an effective way to deal with things – and thus if I want things to move and be accomplished – I must remain HERE – BREATH – and not accept and allow emotions of the mind to conquer and possess me


When and as I see that I am becoming annoyed with my partner, or anyone else for that matter, in a situation where I am teaching, or somehow working with a project, or point that moves according to time and space, and I within that have an expectation that it should move at a certain pace – I immediately stop myself, I take a breath, and I bring it back here to myself, and I see, realize and understand that I am LIMITING myself and in-fact living counterintuitively when and as I accept and allow myself to go into annoyance – because I am spending time in my mind that I could instead spend here with and my physical body – to in-fact move the point I am working with forward; thus I commit myself to BREATH – to be patient and walk with the physical – to state with me that PATIENCE is PACE SENSE – thus I walk with the PACE of the physical – nothing more and nothing less – and annoyance won’t help me to do this – thus I get back here to the physical and I walk free from emotions

When and as I see that annoyance is still lingering in me, in is lying inside of me like a carpet of emotion, dulling my senses and my expression in that moment, I take a breath, and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize and understand that in this moment I require to physical, practically move myself out of this state of being – which can be done through physical movements, through talking, through laughing, through breathing in and out, through becoming aware of the environment, in essence physically moving myself within myself to get out of the emotion; and thus I commit myself to experiment in the moment with various ways to move myself out of this dullness – and I commit myself to try out LAUGHING as a way to move myself out of this possession

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FAQ Who Will Be The Rubbish Removers In An Equal Money System?

So, let’s take a look at a fascinating point of the Equal Money System, which will differ from how our current money system operates – and the point is: who will remove the rubbish, the shit, and who will clean our streets in an Equal Money System? In other words – who’ll do the crappy jobs when there is no money as motivation?

In our current system the rubbish removers are seen as the lowest of the low, meaning that the stature, and position given to them by the grace of their profession is regarded as worth less in comparison to others. For example, a lawyer is seen as more successful, and valuable than what a rubbish remover is.

Consequently, because the profession of the rubbish remover is regarded to be the least important and valuable profession in society – nobody wants to do it. Instead everyone wants to become lawyers, doctors, musicians, and teachers – whatever profession that gives its practitioner a boost of both money and respect in society.

Though, as can be seen, not everyone hits the jackpot, and as such not everyone becomes lawyers, musicians, doctors, presidents and CEO’s – but still they will have to make money for themselves to survive; then they embrace the position of the rubbish remover. They unwillingly become the slaves of those that are successful in society, and remove their shit, in order to survive – because if they refused to be rubbish removers, they wouldn’t have any money, and as such they would die – because when you don’t have money in this reality = you die.

Thus – what can be concluded is that in our current money system, the so-called losers take on the position of being a rubbish remover, those that can’t achieve a highly paid and sought after job, find themselves to clean up the shit from those that are able to do so.

What can be seen is that the creation of a rubbish remover originates within survival, as the human being is forced to do something in order to have money, even if he doesn’t want to do it – then he becomes a rubbish remover. It’s as such not a job people seek to do due them enjoying to be a rubbish remover, or due to them enjoying the smell of rubbish, or due to them feeling that they make a good service to the rest of society – no – in plain: they are forced to do what they dislike in order to survive = they are in-fact slaves.

So, nobody wants to become a rubbish remover, due to the fact that you’re working with other peoples shit, it’s not challenging, it’s not fun, and there are other things you’d rather do – but still some become rubbish removers, and this is due to how our current money system operates, where you are forced to become a slave, and accept whatever is thrown at you, if you don’t have any money – money is god, and if you don’t have any, you’re dead.

What will then change in an Equal Money System? Will there still be rubbish removers in an Equal Money System? Because, in an Equal Money System all have the right to the basic necessities of life, each one’s survival is granted unconditionally, as such nobody will have to force themselves out of bed each morning to take up others shit – so the others can spend their time playing lawyers, doctors, or CEO’s instead.

Fear of survival will disappear as the constant need of all to acquire money for their continued existence will evaporate, thus – very few, or none at all, will choose to become a rubbish remover, as there are other things they’d rather do with their time, than to clean up after others.

We then get a society where there is no rubbish removers anymore, because none are forced to become a slave in order to survive, and as such the lawyers, doctors, and the “successful” people of the system, will suddenly, and with quite a chock see and realize the utmost importance of the rubbish remover in their life. As suddenly rubbish won’t anymore magically disappear, but it will stock up in piles, and spread diseases, smells, and give room for rats to breed, eat, and multiply.

Consequently we’ll all be forced to take responsibility for our own shit, to realize that the problem of rubbish and shit is not to be dumped upon slaves, manipulated and created through the use of money, but that it’s a community responsibility to keep the streets, homes, and cities clean. And we have to together clean our streets, empty public trash cans, and mop our floors – or face the music, which is mankind swimming in it’s own shit.

Thus – in an Equal Money System, where wage slavery ends, the profession of the rubbish remover will also end, and instead each and everyone will have to take responsibility for their own shit, and the community will have to learn what it in-fact takes to keep a city clean, and how much time and effort that goes into removing rubbish, and taking care of the practical side-effects of living.

Because if we look at it, the rubbish remover is in-fact one of the most important professions that exists for a societies continued functionality – without rubbish removers there will be disease, there will be shit everywhere on the streets, there will be smell, you’d have to push you door open with a hard body tackle, due to all the shit that lies in it’s way – in short: the rubbish remover has been taken for granted!

In an Equal Money System we will have to take self-responsibility, and some professions, that has no practical relevance what so ever when the chase for money disappears, such as lawyers, CEO’s, and stock brokers, will cease to exist – then we can instead spend time upon the real practical issues of this reality, such as taking care of our direct environment, through removing the shit that we produce. This would mean that the need for a rubbish remover profession cease to exist, as we take responsibility for our own rubbish, and learn to take care of our world together, and by ourselves individually.

To sum up – who will be the rubbish remover in an Equal Money System? Who will do the crappy jobs? Answer: We Will! We as the group take care of our common reality, giving as we would like to receive, not anymore dependent upon money in order to have it to be clean around us.