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Day 294: Why Winning Is A Limitation

Is winning something good? Does winning benefit and support us in our expression?

It is normal to view winning as a positive experience. Winning is something most people strive towards, in various ways. Winning in our career through getting the best job, winning in our personal lives through having the best partner, winning in our education through having the best marks, and so on. Winning is a lifestyle that has become particularly accentuated in our fast paced lives. Though, there is a backside to winning, something that is easily missed or shunned, as the experience of winning is so tempting, exciting, and positive.

I will take an example from my own life which shows that becoming obsessed with, and defining oneself according to the experience winning is in-fact a limitation. It goes back to my years in elementary school. It was easy for me in school and I managed to get comparatively good marks. I was not necessarily the best, however, I was doing good – good enough for me to see myself as a ‘winner’. Then came a big change in my life, as my parents decided that our family was to move to another part of our country. I had to start a new school, and in that, I was now marked according to new standards. In this new school, I did not achieve the marks I had hoped for, and consequently, I went into an experience of feeling like a loser, and being depressed because I did not win anymore. This led me to struggle, fight, and push so that I could move myself forward in school, and get better marks again. To some extent I succeeded with achieving better marks at my new school, and again I went into that comfort zone of feeling like a winner – comparatively good at what I was doing.

Now, some might ask, what is the problem with this? You were quite good at school, had some problems, and then sorted it out, what is the story?

The problem is the fact that my drive, ambition, and push was always defined within the limits of energy and how I felt. I only pushed myself to excel and become better when I felt like I did not match my peers. Only then did it become relevant for me to go through the trials and tribulations to actually expand myself – and that is a LIMITATION. The fact is that, the moment we base our feeling of ourselves through comparison against others, we put a cap on our ability to excel, and expand. We only go as far as is required to feel feel good about ourselves, though not as far as we are able to take it.

Later in my life I decided to study law, and during this period of time I came to realize some important points about learning, self-expansion, and self-creation. I realized that if I want to become really good at what I am doing, I cannot use others as a benchmark. Instead, I must listen to myself, and be self-honest – I must be willing to admit to myself when I am not living to the utmost of my ability and then have the discipline to actively change myself. Having this perspective, studies, learning, work, and career becomes about self-perfection – it becomes about being the best that you are able to be – where there is no comparison – because you do it for yourself. That is also the definition of self-fulfillment – where you fill yourself through challenging yourself, through actively moving forward, through tirelessly looking at where, and how you can push yourself to become more.

Winning as such is a limitation because in making winning the focus you loose touch with yourself and your own potential. In winning, you have to conform to standards of what is considered right, and wrong – however your fullest potential might not even be able to be compartmentalized in such limited words as right, and wrong. Consider for example the work of Bruce Lee. He did not become the best karate or kung fu practitioner – instead he developed his own martial arts where he could express his own unique movements and physical characteristics fully. The same is true with any form of skill or ability that is being developed. To find and realize our full potential, we must do it for ourselves, we must listen to ourselves, and be open to what comes through from within.

The solution to this problem of being addicted to and driven by the desire to win is as such to let ourselves lose. Let go of the hierarchy, of who is the best, and who is the worst, and let us instead look at who we are, and how we can become the best version of OURSELVES. Let us find that innate and deep drive to develop and realize ourselves and make it the quest in all aspects of our lives to find out how much more we be.

Day 193: Wiping Your Eyes and Survival

One point that has come up recently is me reacting in irritation when as my partner touch her face – and clears her eyes – I am going to take a deeper look at this point in this blog.

So, what I am able to see is that act of touching one’s facing and clearing one’s eyes definitely has no negative impact on the physical world or the human physical body – and that being irritated about this is one of those irrational and unnecessary points – that simply doesn’t serve any purpose whatsoever.

I can also see that the reaction in itself doesn’t have anything to do with the actual act of my partner wiping her eyes – rather it’s about the symbolical representation of this – and what I perceive that this act means = I see it as a form of tiredness and acknowledgement that one is not in a optimum physical state – but that one is sluggish and not energetic – not sprawling with life – and not exuding a desire to create and move forward – and this is something that I then judge and look down upon.

It’s thus not about the actual act of my partner wiping her face – it’s about how I perceive that this is somehow an act of weakness – and apparently – according to the logic I currently possess – this weakness is bad. This goes hand in hand with the idea that my partner is apparently my ‘possession’ and that a ‘weakness’ in my partner shows a weakness in myself – and in order for me to be a winner and victorious in this world – I apparently require to surround myself with people (and a partner) that exudes superiority and excellence – because then I can perceive myself as that point of superiority and excellence and feel like a winner.

In the end it comes down to survival – and how I want to change my partner to be the way that I perceive a successful survivor to be – someone that wins and that is able to take this world with storm and walk out of it with the highest price – this is thus where the reaction comes – it’s that my partner is not at that very moment fulfilling and satisfying my idea of winning and superiority – and how I want my relationship to be reflected and shown in the world – and obviously this is quite a fuck-up – because a relationship shouldn’t be about me presenting a successful image to the world – it should be about me getting to know another – walking with and supporting another – and assisting each-other in this process of self-creation – walking a relationship should be about WHO I AM and getting to know the WHO of another – not merely creating ideas of another and wanting them to satisfy ideals and perceptions of what it means to be a successful and strong survivor.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to view and value my partner and my relationships with others according to how I am able to use these points in order to further my self-interest and win in the system – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be concerned with and only care about wanting to win – and wanting to achieve a form of superiority in the world wherein I get attention and notice for how grand and effective I am in my life and in my application

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge wiping one’s eyes and touching one’s face as being a sign and representation of inferiority and lack of discipline – and strength – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge this point – and go into anger and irritation when and as I see that my partner does this thing – thinking that it signifies and shows a weakness – and that it makes me look bad in the world system of competition – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to approach relationships – and life in general – from within and as a starting point of competition – wherein I want to place myself in such a way that I am sure that I’ll be able to survive – and win – and compete with others and be in a favorable and superior position in comparison with others

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want and desire to win – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to approach my life from a starting point of competition – wherein I believe that the only valid and meaningful purpose in life is to compete – and is to prove myself as being superior and competitive – and more than; thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to evaluate my relationship with my partner from this perspective – that it’s only valuable when it supports me in my endeavor to win – and be victorious – and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize and understand how there is much more to a relationship – and to life – that life doesn’t need to be about competition – but that I can instead live here within and as equality – and stand equal with life – and thus realize that equality is real fulfillment – that equality is real satisfaction – that standing here and grounding myself in the physical and re-aligning my starting point to not be about winning – but rather about me creating a world that is best for all – that is a way to live and participate which is of real significance and impact

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to evaluate not being competitive in this world as being a weakness – instead of seeing, realizing and understand that competition – and trying to get the better hand in the game of survival is not a representation of real strength – because real strength is about me making a decision to actually live and move myself within a purpose and starting point that goes beyond my personal desires – and my personal self-interest – wherein I place myself in a position within where I consider and look at what is best for all – and make that my starting point and from where I make decisions and from where I move myself to take in a position – or walk a relationship – thus not making it to be all about myself and who’s winning and who isn’t – but instead making sure that all are winners – and that all are cared for equally – and that nobody gets left behind

Self-commitment statements

I commit myself to actively ask myself how I am able to move and participate and create to bring about a change that is best for all – and I commit myself to look at my life as an opportunity for me to bring about change in this world permanently and substantially – and make this my priority – and place everything else second to that

I commit myself to realize that winning is not real when only one person wins – that is not winning – it’s rather a form of abuse and bullying that takes place against those less fortunate – and thus I commit myself to re-align myself walk towards a common ground and common point where all are winners – and thus I commit myself to stop judging my partner – when she touches her face and wipes her eyes – and realize that I am not in this relationship to further my self-interest and ‘win’ in this world – but I am here to get to know another for real – and to create something of value and worth that stand beyond competition – that stand beyond winning and loosing – that honor the equality that is here between all various expressions in this physical world and reality

Day 73: The Most Angry Person Wins…

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take it personally, and react in feeling hurt, and becoming angry, when and as I perceive that someone else is angry at me, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into and as a state of competition, wherein I am trying to compete with another, to show them that I will not loose in a “anger-fight” but that I will step back up and show how discontent and frustrated I am

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame another when perceive a situation as me unfairly having been attacked, and judged for doing something that I didn’t really do, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take what others say, do, and express personally, and to think and believe that it’s a personal attack towards me, and that because of that I am defined by this personal attack, and thus I must move myself to defend and protect myself; and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand how in-fact nothing is personal, and that what I experience as personal is in-fact my own creations

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think, perceive, and believe that when another becomes frustrated at me, raises their voice, or looks in someway threatening, that this then means that I am loosing; and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think, perceive, and believe that I require to get on top again, and that I must get on top again through becoming angry back at them, thinking and believing that unless I apply this approach I am going to loose myself, and become inferior to this other person

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist in constant state of input and output in relation to my environment, wherein I express myself according to the input my environment gives me, instead of me standing self-directed, and self-motivated here, and not accepting and allowing myself to become a robot that reacts, but that I instead move and participate from within and as principles, and that my movement in reality is not limited, or contained to what I believe, and think that others experience in relation to me, but that my movement, and application is self-directed, and self-motivated, and that I am not limited in anyway – because I decide who I am – I decide how I experience myself

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame another when I feel and experience myself as having been hurt, and having been unfairly treated, and within that go into anger to in a way “get back at them” – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not investigate the origin point of my reaction, as that experience of feeling hurt, to look at what it really is that happens within me, and why it is that I go into a state of hurt; and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand, that in blaming others, and thinking that others are at fault for my experience of myself, I am in-fact limiting myself, and making it impossible for myself to change myself, because I am waiting on others to change, before I change

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not push myself to be self-directed and self-motivated in my change, and in my direction of and as myself as change, wherein I don’t wait for others to be different, and I don’t wait for others to become and be “nice” towards me – but that I instead move, and apply myself here as breath, and walk myself into and as self-correction, and self-change – regardless of whether other changes or not

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect to the sound, as a voice slightly shaken with the energy of anger, a belief, that when I hear this voice I am attacked personally, and that I must experience myself as being hurt, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not take a breath, and bring myself back here to the physical – and to understand that a voice, slightly shaken with anger, is just a voice and have no factual implication for me as to how I must experience myself, but it’s in actuality only sound; as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not breath, and to not take this sound, and this voice personally, but instead remain here with and as my human physical body, with and as breath, here

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become possessed by anger when I feel that I’ve been wronged, and that another have not considered me through being nice and pleasant, and easy-going – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to take others personally, and to believe that my experience is connected to another, instead of realizing that my anger experience is something that I generate through backchat, is something that I generate through thought, and is in-fact something that wouldn’t exist, unless I’d actively participated within and as the point, and created the point through my own movement within my mind; as such I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not STOP – take a breath – and bring myself back here to the physical and to see, realize, and understand – that only the physical is needed and that the mind is not required for me to live and express here – I only require my breath

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand that in living completely physically here – there is no anger, and there is no fear – because there is no mind – there is simply situations, and moments opening up here that I require to direct, and that I require to walk through and bring to a point of conclusion – and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not practice this point of living breath, of simply not in anyway paying attention to the mind, and allowing myself to live by thoughts, and reactions coming up within my mind, but instead breathing, bringing myself back here, and living with and as the physical, with and as my human physical body here

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame another, and hold unto blame, as anger, when I feel that I’ve been unjustly attacked, and that another have not considered me as I’d like to be considered, and within this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand that there is nothing at fault with the other person, but that the fault is within and as me, and how I’ve interpreted the situation through the mind, through energy, wherein I’ve taken another’s words, and behavior personally, defined myself according to another’s words and behavior – instead of living and moving myself practically in every moment of breath – here – in oneness and equality

When and as I see that I take another’s words or behavior personally, and I start to blame, and become angry, because I feel that I’ve been unjustly treated – I immediately stop myself, I take a breath, and I bring myself back here – and I see, realize, and understand that what I experience is not about the other, it’s about who I am, and what I accept and allow within and as me as thoughts, and backchat, and that stability, and silence is a possibility for me to achieve here, but that I require to in-fact walk it into physical equality and oneness and in-fact make it real on a physical level – which will require discipline and complete dedication here in every moment of breath; I commit myself to bring everything back to myself and to walk in complete dedication, and discipline with and as the point of remaining here as breath

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2012 Democracy Is The Key To Freedom

The way to change this world rests in politics and as has been proven by activists through out the centuries – no change will ever come through refusing to partake in the political scene while only focusing upon “resisting” the “badness” of the government.

Through voting we elect officials and as such invest them with the power to make decisions for the entirety of society – these decisions then become the physically manifested reality of our day-to-day lives. The reason as to why our lives are fucked up is not due to democracy and politics itself, but due to us as the public being uneducated and brainwashed voters and as such voting for the wrong people.

Nobody other than us as the public has created the system as it currently function and we have done so through voting. The men in power that make decisions to go to war, to exploit other countries natural resources, to wreak havoc on the lives of those already marginalized, are as much our decisions as theirs – because we voted them into power.

Activists avoids politics and focuses upon creating change through demonstrations, acts of violence and resistance, and building plans for alternate realities, but what they do in essence is that they blame the decision making process in society as democracy and politicians for the problems in the world, and then they themselves avoid and refuse to take part of the process of democracy and politics – isn’t that alarmingly schizophrenic? First disagreeing with what is here and then refusing to themselves take the power in their hands to do something about it, but instead merely resisting and demonstrating against the system of actual power and authority – is our activists bribed by corporations to spread the lie that democracy is useless?

Politics and democracy is not as difficult as it looks. In order to get into power you need to have the majority of the votes – one vote over 50 % of all votes – and once this is achieved you are in a position to legally and with the support of police and government employees to change everything in society – from how food and wages are distributed – to what corporations should be allowed, and who should own these corporations – when you get the power through democratic election not even the rules and limitations of money stand in the way as the rules of money are based upon laws that the publically elected have created and as such new laws can be created.

The best thing about democracy is that the minority – the 50 % minus one vote – can’t change the course of direction that the majority decide upon and as such those that are currently rich and wealthy – which is about 1 % of the worlds population – will have no ability to hinder a new world raising forth from a democratic process of election. Thus – if we decide it to be poverty needs to be no more, because we have the majority and are as such able to change the direction of the world.

The reason why we’ve not had change in the world even though democracy has been introduced is because we’ve not utilized it effectively, we’ve become brainwashed to make decisions in self-interest and for the benefit of our individual lives – instead of taking decisions that are in the benefit of the whole. But still the election process remains the same and we only need but to change our starting point when we elect a new government – from wanting to satisfy our own individual worlds, to instead wanting to satisfy the world in it’s entirety – then we’ll have a new world come forth that is best for all – heaven on earth.

Investigate democracy and realize that activism is but a teenage-rebellion behavior that won’t ever muster to any change – we need to come together and vote for a democratic party that will in-fact bring through a world that is best for all.

Why is wall street a casino?

The answer to this question doesn’t need to have more research than looking at the economic section of a daily newspaper, or switching on the television to look at the news cast; because what is proven time over time as one look at these reports is that the economy makes absolutely NO SENSE what-so-ever. Nobody is able to tell whether the economy will increase, or decrease – and when it decrease everyone end up surprised – and people jump out of their rooftop offices, as they lost all that they owned; the economy simply doesn’t make any sense.

And this is also proven by the fact that there are so many companies that go into the market, maybe they make great earnings, to the next month bankrupt – the economy is such a unstable, and unpredictable environment that any other term but casino can’t accurately enough describe the sheer luck required to get anywhere in this world – in terms of ‘winning on the stock market’.

What’s fascinating is that many still believe that there is skill to becoming rich – that it’s something you struggle towards, and fight towards, and then one day you suddenly ‘make it’ – thinking that everyone has the ability to ‘win’; while in-fact there are very, very few people that ever transcend their birth given socio-economic class. Most stay where they we’re born – as workers, or academics, most of us simply take on the track of our parents. And if your ‘lucky’ enough to be born rich – then this will be your future life.

As such – the stock market, the economy and capitalism isn’t a place wherein your dreams will be fulfilled – and you’ll be able to have your ‘freedom’ – it’s in-fact the opposite; it’s the prison where you’ll be a wage-slave till the end of your days, wishing, hoping and desiring that you’d one day be able to get out of your misery – but that they will never arrive.

And then you would through your life attempting to scrounge sufficient of money to give you a ‘comfortable’ old age – or enough money to pay for your hospital bills, or at least your apartment bills. We all, or the big majority of us, exist within such living conditions of moving from month to month – and still: even though we exist in this experience and lived application of a wage-slave, we persist holding unto the dream of richness, the hope that it’ll someday be our turn to win!

Though this will in-fact never happen – you won’t ever truly win until all win. And when all when, as all are given equal access to what is here, that’s when heaven on earth will become a reality – and you’ll in-fact be able to have all that which you ‘truly’ desire – as that feeling of safety, and comfort all strife for; everyone will know that they are safe, and without any risk to be harmed – and all the material possession that we desire – that we use to support our physical bodies, and realities with – they will become available to all. Everyone will win!

So – delete any thought that resides within saying that only 1 is able to win – and that the world must be a casino of winners and losers – such a belief is self-limitation and not in-fact real.